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Prologue Ira Glass From WBEZ Chicago and Public Radio International, it's This American Life.
序言 来自 WBEZ 芝加哥和国际公共广播电台的 Ira Glass，这就是美国生活。
I'm Ira Glass.
我是艾拉·格拉斯。
And this is the story of the day that my dad fired his mother and sent her home from work.
这就是我父亲解雇他母亲并送她下班回家那天的故事。
With her 13 inch black and white TV in the passenger seat.
副驾驶座上有一台 13 英寸黑白电视。
As if a sure sign that she was definitely not coming back, she was taking the TV with her.
她带着电视，仿佛是她绝对不会回来的明确信号。
There are two kinds of family stories, your tragedies and your comedies.
家庭故事有两种：悲剧和喜剧。
This, you'll be glad to hear, is a comedy.
你会很高兴听到这是一部喜剧。
When Rory was growing up in Massachusetts, everybody in the family did some work for the family business, a machine shop.
当罗里（Rory）在马萨诸塞州长大时，家里的每个人都为家族企业（一家机械厂）做一些工作。
She and her sisters assembled tiny parts as kids at their kitchen table.
小时候，她和她的姐妹们在厨房的桌子上组装微小的零件。
Her grandfather ran the technical side.
她的祖父负责技术方面的工作。
Her dad ran the business side.
Her dad ran the business side.
And my grandmother, my father's mother, was the secretary in the shop.
我的祖母，也就是我父亲的母亲，是店里的秘书。
She sat in the front with my father, like right outside his office.
她和我父亲坐在前面，就像在他办公室外面一样。
And he couldn't stand, basically, that she always gave him what he calls "chin music." Which is she would always be like, why are you paying that person that amount of money?
基本上，他无法忍受她总是给他所谓的“下巴音乐”。她总是会问，你为什么要付给那个人那么多钱？
Or why are you lending that person that money?
或者你为什么要借给那个人那么多钱？
It was always about money.
这总是与金钱有关。
It was always about the business affairs of the shop that she felt like she had to say something and that drove him bats.
每当涉及到店里的生意时，她就觉得自己必须说点什么，这让他抓狂。
So one day, I guess he had asked her to order a bunch of liquor for a party.
所以有一天，我猜他让她为聚会点了一堆酒。
I think it was like a wintertime party, possibly a Christmas party.
我认为这就像一场冬季派对，也可能是一场圣诞派对。
And it was a list of all the liquor that they needed to get.
这是他们需要获得的所有酒的清单。
And she thought that there was too much gin on the list.
她认为单子上的杜松子酒太多了。
She thought that gin was a summer drink, despite the fact that she doesn't drink.
尽管她不喝酒，但她认为杜松子酒是夏季饮料。
And so she said to my father, don't you think that that's too much gin?
于是她对我父亲说，你不觉得杜松子酒喝太多了吗？
You should order something else or don't get that.
你应该点别的东西，否则就得不到。
Don't get that drink.
别喝那杯酒。
And he said, no, we're going to get that.
And he said, no, we're going to get that.
Just order what I wanted.
只订购我想要的东西。
And she sort of went at him again, I think.
我想她又向他发起攻击了。
And then, as she says, it just grew into something much uglier.
然后，正如她所说，它变得更加丑陋。
I guess, basically, he just threw in her face that she was always second-guessing everything that he did.
我想，基本上，他只是当着她的面说她总是在事后批评他所做的一切。
That drove him bats and he told her, basically, to get out.
这让他抓狂，他基本上告诉她滚出去。
Of course, second guessing is part of what being a parent is all about.
当然，事后猜测是作为父母的一部分。
You're supposed to second-guess your kids' decisions when they're little.
当你的孩子还小的时候，你应该对他们的决定进行事后批评。
And then, after 15, 20 years, who among us is so strong that they could just suddenly stop?
然后，15年、20年之后，我们当中有谁强大到可以突然停下来？
It happens without thinking, without you even wanting it to.
它会不假思索地发生，你甚至不想它发生。
Your kid does something.
你的孩子做了某事。
You automatically calculate, is that the right thing or not?
你会自动计算，这是否正确？
You can't just leave it aside because you and your kid happen to be at work.
你不能因为你和你的孩子碰巧在工作而把它放在一边。
And then, of course, there's the kid's side.
当然，还有孩子的一面。
Who wants to be second-guessed like that all the time?
谁愿意一直受到这样的批评呢？
Some estimates say that 40% to 60% of our nation's gross domestic product is created by family businesses.
有人估计，我国国内生产总值的 40% 至 60% 是由家族企业创造的。
And you just have to wonder, how?
你一定想知道，怎么办？
How is our economy holding together?
How is our economy holding together?
I would definitely wager that some of those families, I think that they probably become coworkers more than family.
我肯定会打赌，其中一些家庭，我认为他们可能更多地成为同事而不是家庭。
I mean that's just my guess.
我的意思是这只是我的猜测。
So I can imagine it.
所以我可以想象。
I think it's definitely like making money is more important than getting along at a certain point.
我认为这绝对就像在某个时刻赚钱比相处更重要一样。
Excuse me?
打扰一下？
Rory Evan Isn't that the way it should be?
罗里·埃文 这不应该是这样吗？
Now there's a big family values thought for all of us to share today.
今天我们大家有一个重要的家庭价值观思想可以分享。
In Rory's family, everybody forgave or forget within a week after her father fired her mother.
在罗里（Rory）的家庭中，父亲解雇母亲后一周内，每个人都原谅或忘记了。
But other families aren't so civilized.
但其他家庭就没有那么文明了。
Today on our program, stories of family businesses.
今天我们的节目讲述的是家族企业的故事。
What happens when the tension of family dynamics collides with the pressure of capitalist market forces?
当家庭动态的紧张与资本主义市场力量的压力发生碰撞时会发生什么？
It's money, intrigue, blood, everything.
这是金钱、阴谋、血腥，一切。
Act One of our program, What's a Grecian Urn?
我们节目的第一幕，什么是希腊瓮？
David Rakoff takes us inside the world of one Greek family restaurant.
大卫·拉科夫带我们走进一家希腊家庭餐厅的世界。
Act Two, Silent Partner.
第二幕，沉默的伙伴。
A family that started a family business because grief counseling didn't work.
一个因悲伤咨询不起作用而创办家族企业的家庭。
Because time did not heal.
因为时间并没有治愈。
Because nothing else to seemed to solve their problem.
因为似乎没有其他办法可以解决他们的问题。
Act Three, Family Photo Opp.
第三幕，全家福。
Dave Eggers and what happens when politics suddenly becomes your family business.
戴夫·艾格斯（Dave Eggers）以及当政治突然成为你的家族生意时会发生什么。
When your brother runs for office spouting political views that you do not usually agree with yourself.
当你的兄弟竞选公职时大肆宣扬你通常不同意的政治观点。
Act Four, Every Unhappy Family Cleaning Supplies Business is Unhappy in Its Own Way.
第四幕，每个不幸福的家庭清洁用品企业都有自己的不幸福。
We hear how an invitation to a business meeting sent through the mail in 1963 kept two sides of a family from speaking with each other for most of the second half of the 20th century.
我们听说，1963 年通过邮件发出的商务会议邀请函，导致家庭双方在 20 世纪下半叶的大部分时间里无法相互交谈。
Stay with us.
留在我们身边。
Act One, What's a Grecian Urn?
第一幕，什么是希腊瓮？
Writer David Rakoff says that every job that he's ever had was for a family business of one sort or another.
作家大卫·拉考夫 (David Rakoff) 表示，他所从事的每一份工作都是为某种家族企业服务的。
They've usually been hot beds of family intrigue and melodrama.
他们通常是家庭阴谋和情节剧的温床。
Except at one place where he worked as a teenager, where it was only in retrospect that he fully understood what had been going on around him among family members every day.
除了他少年时工作过的一个地方，只有回想起来，他才完全明白周围家人每天发生的事情。
King Constantine the Second, the deposed monarch of Greece, was passionate about my French vanilla root beer floats.
希腊被废黜的君士坦丁二世国王对我的法国香草根汽啤酒充满热情。
The French vanilla was definitely one of our better flavors.
法国香草绝对是我们最好的口味之一。
We charged $0.05 more per scoop.
每勺我们多收了 0.05 美元。
Not every ice cream parlor in Toronto in the summer of 1982 came equipped with lapsed royalty.
1982 年夏天，并不是多伦多的每家冰淇淋店都配备了失效的特许权使用费。
But Athos and Melina, the married couple who owned the shop where I worked, were old friends of the king.
但我工作的商店的老板阿托斯和梅琳娜是国王的老朋友。
They had known him ever since the good old days when Constantine was still ensconced in happy figurehead-hood, and when Athos and Melina were at the tippy-top of Athenian society, he, a drug company executive, she, a scientist in the perfume industry.
他们从过去的美好时光就认识他了，那时康斯坦丁还沉浸在幸福的傀儡之中，当阿托斯和梅琳娜处于雅典社会的顶端时，他是一家制药公司的高管，她是香水行业的一名科学家。
The sense one got was that this was a couple on the lam for some reason.
人们的感觉是，这是一对因某种原因在逃的夫妇。
From Athens, they had fled to the Sudan, where they continued their rarefied lifestyle.
他们从雅典逃到苏丹，在那里继续他们的稀缺生活方式。
And where a few years later, the volatile politics of that region would send them into flight yet again, landing them here in Toronto, exhausted and vaguely punch-drunk, the stunned franchisees of a well known ice cream parlour chain.
几年后，该地区动荡的政治局势将他们再次送上飞机，降落在多伦多，他们是一家知名冰淇淋连锁店的加盟商，他们精疲力竭，几乎喝醉了。
Regrouping, they settled into their new lives in this ersatz San Francisco gold rush saloon, with its faux Tiffany lamps, frosted mirrors, and wrought iron chairs.
重新集结后，他们在这家旧金山淘金热时期的仿造酒吧里开始了新生活，那里有仿蒂芙尼灯、磨砂镜子和锻铁椅子。
It was an aesthetic so relentless and so forced in its attempt to evoke those bygone days in the city by the bay, that it even went so far as to name its biggest and most vulgar sundae after a civic disaster where thousands upon thousands of San Franciscans were killed.
这种美学如此无情、如此强迫性地试图唤起这座海湾城市过去的时光，甚至在一场导致成千上万旧金山人丧生的公民灾难之后，它甚至以最大、最粗俗的圣代命名。
I know a special birthday boy.
我认识一个特别的生日男孩。
Will you be having the earthquake?
你们会地震吗？
Imagine, if you will, Marie Antoinette, who instead of succumbing to the decapitory charms of the guillotine, is safely spirited away from France to England along with other fortunate aristocrats.
如果你愿意的话，想象一下，玛丽·安托瓦内特没有屈服于断头台的斩首魅力，而是与其他幸运的贵族一起安全地从法国转移到英国。
Now resettled, she runs a fish and chips stand in Brighton, where daily the tiny, golden ship perched in the frothy waves of her high-powdered wig regularly topples into the deep fat fryer.
现在她重新定居，在布莱顿经营一家炸鱼薯条摊，每天，这艘金色的小船停泊在她高粉假发的泡沫波浪中，定期翻入深油炸锅。
This will give you a sense of how profoundly strange was Athos and Melina's presence in our midst.
这会让你感觉到阿托斯和梅琳娜出现在我们中间是多么的奇怪。
Athos looked like a latter day Jean Paul Belmondo, a formerly handsome man whose features have gone rubbery and heavy with age.
阿托斯看上去就像是现代版的让·保罗·贝尔蒙多，以前是一位英俊的男人，但随着年龄的增长，他的五官已经变得有弹性、厚重。
He was, for the most part, a surly, taciturn man, constantly trying to bilk us out of our near minimum wages by suddenly pretending to understand less English than he actually did.
在很大程度上，他是一个脾气暴躁、沉默寡言的人，总是试图通过突然假装不懂英语来骗取我们接近最低的工资。
But despite his gruff manner, y chromosome, and ultimate control of our salaries, it was no secret who was truly in charge: Melina.
但是，尽管他态度粗暴，y染色体，并且对我们的工资拥有最终控制权，但真正负责的人是谁：梅琳娜，这已经不是什么秘密了。
Formidable, fire hydrant-sized Melina.
Formidable, fire hydrant-sized Melina.
If she had ever decided to withhold our payment, she would have never resorted to falsely broken English.
如果她决定扣留我们的付款，她绝不会诉诸蹩脚的英语。
She would have simply told us outright.
She would have simply told us outright.
I adored her.
我很喜欢她。
She was smart as a whip, possessed of an appreciative and often bawdy sense of humor, and sounded not a little bit like Peter Laurie.
她聪明得像鞭子一样，具有欣赏性和经常下流的幽默感，听起来有点像彼得·劳瑞。
She was also prone to moods so changeable-- from borderline inappropriate affection to homicidal seething rage in mere seconds-- that one gave up trying to guess her mental state and surrendered to the hurricane of emotion that was Melina.
她的情绪也很容易变化——从近乎不恰当的感情到短短几秒钟内的杀人般的愤怒——人们放弃了猜测她的精神状态，而屈服于梅琳娜的情感飓风。
Actually, Athos and Melina weren't even really aristocrats.
事实上，阿托斯和梅琳娜根本算不上真正的贵族。
They were meritocrats.
他们是精英人士。
Their position in that world of Levantine glamour from which they had been lately cast out was earned by dint of study, expertise, and labor.
他们在黎凡特魅力世界中的地位是通过学习、专业知识和劳动赢得的，最近他们才被赶出了这个世界。
They definitely knew the meaning of hard work.
They definitely knew the meaning of hard work.
We all sought refuge in the back.
We all sought refuge in the back.
The kitchen became a haven for us.
厨房成了我们的避风港。
It was the place where they kept the industrial-sized tank of nitrous oxide used to make the whipped cream.
这是他们存放用来制作鲜奶油的工业规模一氧化二氮罐的地方。
As anyone who has ever worked in an ice cream parlor can tell you, two things end up happening really quickly.
任何曾经在冰淇淋店工作过的人都会告诉你，有两件事很快就会发生。
You get sick of ice cream almost immediately.
You get sick of ice cream almost immediately.
And soon thereafter, you fall in love with nitrous oxide.
此后不久，您就爱上了一氧化二氮。
You heart whippets.
你们这些心机小鬼。
This ardor eventually cools when you realize that it's been weeks since you've been able to subtract simple sums, use an adjective correctly, or spell your own last name.
当你意识到你已经有几个星期没有能够做简单的减法、正确使用形容词或拼写自己的姓氏时，这种热情最终会冷却下来。
But at the first blush of narcotic romance, you merely wonder where whippets have been all your life.
但乍一看麻醉般的浪漫，你只是想知道惠比特犬在你的一生中都在哪里。
We were frequently joined in our daily worship at the nozzle by Melina and Athos' son, Nick.
梅琳娜和阿托斯的儿子尼克经常加入我们在喷嘴处的日常崇拜。
I was desperate to be Nick.
I was desperate to be Nick.
In 1982, I was valiantly trying to manifest as alternative, eccentric, divo.
1982 年，我勇敢地尝试表现出另类、古怪、女主角的形象。
Instead, with my hair in a short back and sides do with a long and floppy neuromantic quiff on top, framing a face of such poorly concealed sweetness and naivete, I looked about as threatening and alternative as a baby poodle, as complicated as one of the ice cream cones I spent my days scooping.
相反，我的头发在后面和两侧留着短发，上面有一头又长又松的神经浪漫的卷发，勾勒出一张难以掩饰的甜蜜和天真的脸，我看起来像一只小狮子狗一样具有威胁性和另类，就像我每天舀冰淇淋一样复杂。
But Nick.
但是尼克.
Nick had perfected that epoche brand of [UNINTELLIGIBLE] with his eyelids at the perpetual half mast of weary disdain, his two-tone spiky hair and tapered jeans.
尼克已经完美地完善了[无法理解]的时代风格，他的眼睑永远处于疲倦的蔑视下，他的双色尖头头发和锥形牛仔裤。
Athos and Melina seemed as oblivious to his silent truculence as they were to each other.
阿多斯和梅琳娜似乎没有注意到他无声的好斗，就像他们没有注意到彼此一样。
If the front of the store was their putative living room, where they didn't feel the need to talk to one another except in the presence of company, then the kitchen in back was Nick's domain, where they almost never ventured.
如果商店的前面是他们假定的客厅，除非有人在场，否则他们觉得没有必要互相交谈，那么后面的厨房就是尼克的领地，他们几乎从不冒险去那里。
The teenage bedroom of one's dreams.
The teenage bedroom of one's dreams.
Namely, one with a working refrigerator, a six foot tall tank of pressurized mind-altering gas, and a gaggle of stoners to laugh at everything you say.
也就是说，一个有一台可以工作的冰箱、一个六英尺高的加压改变思想气体的罐子，还有一群吸毒者，他们会嘲笑你所说的一切。
Athos and Melina's complacent disregard of their son seemed yet more proof of their European sophistication.
阿托斯和梅琳娜对儿子的自满漠视似乎更证明了他们欧洲人的成熟。
Aside from occasionally working the register, Nick slouched about curating the music, a seemingly constant running loop of Big Science by Laurie Anderson, giving special play to its hit song, "O Superman," with its obligato of metronomic aspirating laughter.
除了偶尔操作一下收音器之外，尼克还懒洋洋地忙着策划音乐，似乎是劳里·安德森的《大科学》的循环播放，特别播放了其中的热门歌曲“O Superman”，其中有节奏的、令人上瘾的笑声。
But his true pride and joy was his self-published punk new wave magazine, Before and After Science.
但他真正的骄傲和快乐是他自己出版的朋克新浪潮杂志《科学之前和之后》。
It was a cut and paste affair of black and white checkerboard backgrounds, ransom note typography, and sci-fi movie chicks in beehive hairdos with cats eye glasses.
这是黑白棋盘背景、赎金字条排版以及留着蜂巢发型、戴着猫眼镜的科幻电影小鸡的剪切和粘贴事件。
It was available for sale at the front of the store at a cost of $5 for the premiere and, what was to sadly be, only issue.
它在商店门口有售，首映价格为 5 美元，但遗憾的是，它只是唯一一期。
I think I'm the only person who bought a copy.
I think I'm the only person who bought a copy.
But still, the pile of magazines provided a welcome counterpoint to the maudlin boosterism that invaded the store that summer.
不过，这堆杂志仍然与那年夏天侵入商店的伤感的助推主义形成了一种受欢迎的对比。
It was dubbed the summer of Annie by proclamation of the head office in honor of the release of the musical film adaptation of the Broadway show.
为了纪念百老汇音乐剧改编的音乐电影的上映，总公司宣布将其称为“安妮之夏”。
Franchisees across North America had been encouraged to invest in Annie ice cream, a special tie-in flavor.
北美各地的特许经营商都被鼓励投资安妮冰淇淋，这是一种特殊的搭配口味。
Annie ice cream was a noxious combination of strawberry and marshmallow, of such a vile and diabetic coma-inducing nature that it was too cloying even for its target market of little girls.
安妮冰淇淋是草莓和棉花糖的有毒混合物，其性质如此恶劣，会导致糖尿病昏迷，即使对于小女孩的目标市场来说，它也太令人腻味了。
Seven and eight year old angels would skip into the store, all pigtails and horse love, and the scales would fall from their eyes as they spied the pink and white tubs of Annie, seeing the concoction for what it was, insidious marketing, a pernicious inducement to submit to the patriarchy.
七八岁的天使会跳进商店，扎着辫子，满怀马爱，当他们看到安妮的粉色和白色的浴缸时，眼睛里的鳞片会掉下来，看到混合物的本质，阴险的营销，一种屈服于父权制的有害诱因。
These apple-cheeked youngsters became suddenly hardened and cynical.
这些苹果脸颊的年轻人突然变得冷酷而愤世嫉俗。
They took up smoking right there on line, laughing bitterly like baby [?
他们就在网上开始抽烟，笑得像个婴儿[？
peofs ?], derisively ordering futility shakes and double scoops of alienation chip.
peofs？]，嘲笑地点了徒劳的奶昔和两勺异化芯片。
Or, perhaps memory exaggerates just a tad.
Or, perhaps memory exaggerates just a tad.
Available along with the ice cream and stacked into a doomed unpurchased pyramid were the Annie glasses.
与冰淇淋一起出售的还有安妮眼镜，它们被堆放在注定未购买的金字塔中。
Drinking glasses emblazoned with the movie's logo and the likeness of Aileen Quinn, the little girl chosen in a nationwide search to portray the plucky iris and pupil-deprived orphan.
水杯上印有电影标志和艾琳·奎因 (Aileen Quinn) 的肖像，艾琳·奎恩是在全国范围内寻找的小女孩，被选中扮演勇敢的虹膜和失去瞳孔的孤儿。
Sales of these would benefit local charities.
Sales of these would benefit local charities.
Even this altruism was not enough to move a single tumbler.
即使这种利他主义也不足以推动一个不倒翁。
Melina employed her usual unctuous tricks.
Melina employed her usual unctuous tricks.
Are you wearing Anais Anais, madam, she would coo.
女士，你穿着 Anais Anais 吗？她会咕咕叫。
Ah, yes.
啊，是的。
It's a lovely fragrance.
这是一款可爱的香水。
I was one of the chemists who created it in Paris.
我是在巴黎创造它的化学家之一。
Yes, thank you so much.
是的，非常感谢。
Can I interest you in one of our Annie glasses?
Can I interest you in one of our Annie glasses?
Of course, it's for charity.
Of course, it's for charity.
No?
不？
That's perfectly fine.
那就完全没问题了。
I thank you, madam.
我谢谢你，女士。
Good day.
再会。
Wheeling around the instant the door closed she would hiss at us.
门一关上，她就转过身来对我们发出嘶嘶声。
Did you see the jewels dripping off of that woman and she would not even buy one Annie glass.
你有没有看到珠宝从那个女人身上滴下来，她甚至不买一只安妮玻璃杯。
This is a film directed by John Huston, the man who made The Maltese Falcon.
这是一部由《马耳他之鹰》的制作人约翰·休斯顿执导的电影。
What is wrong with you people?
你们怎么了？
We laughed, imitating her behind her back as I am doing now.
我们笑了，在背后模仿她，就像我现在所做的那样。
But of course, Melina's rages had nothing to do with your customers' lack of appreciation for the [UNINTELLIGIBLE] of John Huston.
但当然，梅琳娜的愤怒与您的客户对约翰·休斯顿的[难以理解]缺乏欣赏无关。
At the age of 17, I was too young to smell the tang of flop sweat in the shop air.
17 岁时，我还太年轻，无法闻到商店空气中的汗味。
That smell of exertion that comes from trying to keep away the wolves of defeat.
那种努力的味道来自于试图赶走失败的狼群。
Looking back now, I can see in Melina's pendulum mood swings the desperation of a woman running out of ground beneath her feet where she could resettle and start over yet again.
现在回想起来，我可以在梅琳娜的情绪波动中看到一个女人的绝望，她正在逃离脚下的土地，在那里她可以重新定居并重新开始。
It must have seemed so foolproof to them, an American ice cream parlour.
对他们来说，这家美国冰淇淋店肯定是万无一失的。
And so close to America.
而且距离美国如此之近。
And how perfect too, that summer's thematic undercurrent, the unloved cartoon urchin with her little mongrel, delivered from abandonment and privation to a life of love and untold riches.
那年夏天的主题暗流也是多么完美，不受欢迎的卡通顽童和她的小杂种，从被遗弃和贫困中解脱出来，过着充满爱和无数财富的生活。
Nick's magazine might almost have been the story of their family, before and after science.
尼克的杂志几乎就是他们一家人在科学之前和之后的故事。
Before was their tenure in the reliable field of chemistry where something as ethereal and intangible as a fragrance could be created through the sober logic of a recipe.
在此之前，他们在可靠的化学领域任职，通过配方的清醒逻辑可以创造出像香水这样空灵而无形的东西。
After was this random, anarchic world of business, a world that was failing them.
之后就是这个随机、无政府主义的商业世界，一个令他们失望的世界。
A year later, away at college, I would be sent a small newspaper item.
一年后，在我上大学的时候，我会收到一份小报纸。
The story between the lines made only sadder by the clinical dispassion of the clipping.
剪辑中冷漠的态度让字里行间的故事变得更加悲伤。
A precipitous disappearance, no forwarding address, thousands of dollars in loans and bills outstanding, a shuttered store with no plans to reopen, a sheriff's department notice of seizure taped to the window.
突然失踪，没有转发地址，数千美元的贷款和账单未清，一家关门的商店没有重新开业的计划，警长部门的扣押通知贴在窗户上。
If I look carefully, I can see them on an airplane.
如果我仔细看的话，我可以在飞机上看到他们。
Athos sleeps.
阿托斯睡着了。
Nick tampers with the smoke detector in the bathroom, so he can light up.
尼克篡改了浴室的烟雾探测器，这样他就可以点烟。
And there is Melina's face at the small round window.
小圆窗上有梅琳娜的脸。
Shielding her eyes against the glass, she stares out into the light, past the blinking wing lights, past the western edge of the continent, out over the ocean, scanning the horizon for the next piece of dry land.
她用玻璃遮住眼睛，凝视着外面的光线，越过闪烁的机翼灯，越过大陆的西缘，越过海洋，扫视地平线，寻找下一块干燥的土地。
David Rakoff.
大卫·拉考夫.
His new book, Don't Get Too Comfortable, comes out this September.
他的新书《别太舒服》将于今年九月出版。
[MUSIC- "HARD KNOCK LIFE (GHETTO ANTHEM)" BY JAY-Z]
[音乐 - JAY-Z 的“HARD KNOCK LIFE（贫民窟圣歌）”]
Act Two, Silent Partner.
第二幕，沉默的伙伴。
Now in this story of another family business, Sean Cole visited Chad's Trading Post, a restaurant filled with frilly knick knacks in Southampton, Massachusetts.
在另一个家族企业的故事中，肖恩·科尔参观了查德贸易站，这是一家位于马萨诸塞州南安普敦的充满褶边小玩意的餐厅。
The first my girlfriend Mary Ellen and I walked into Chad's Trading Post, she noticed that only boys worked there and thought it was weird.
我和女朋友玛丽·艾伦第一次走进查德的贸易站时，她注意到只有男孩在那里工作，并认为这很奇怪。
Normally, she said, in a place like this, a small country restaurant, you only see girls working.
她说，通常情况下，在像这样的乡村小餐馆里，你只会看到女孩在工作。
She pointed to the cover of the menu, which read "Dedicated to and operated proudly in the memory of Chad D.
她指着菜单的封面，上面写着“献给查德·D.
McDonald, 3/12/74 to 3/11/90."
麦当劳，74 年 3 月 12 日至 90 年 3 月 11 日。”
She leaned in to me and whispered, do you think the owner hires only boys because they remind her of her son?
她靠向我低声说道，你认为老板只雇用男孩是因为他们让她想起了她的儿子吗？
I certainly thought this was possible and sad in a way that makes you feel embarrassed for that person.
我当然认为这是可能的，而且令人悲伤，让你为那个人感到尴尬。
Then a man came over and poured us some coffee.
然后一个男人走过来给我们倒了一些咖啡。
And when he turned around, there, in huge white letters on the back of his blue polo shirt, it said, "Chad's Brother."
当他转过身来时，他的蓝色马球衫背面用巨大的白色字母写着：“查德的兄弟。”
Do you think that's what they call all the managers here, I asked Mary Ellen.
“你认为这就是他们对这里所有经理的称呼吗？”我问玛丽·艾伦。
Do you think that's really Chad's brother?
你认为那真的是查德的兄弟吗？
Then another friendlier manager type came over and asked us how we were doing and if we needed more coffee.
然后另一位更友善的经理过来问我们过得怎么样以及是否需要更多咖啡。
And I noticed his shirt.
我注意到他的衬衫。
My shirt says, "Chad's Best Friend." Logo over on the right-hand side.
我的衬衫上写着：“查德最好的朋友。”徽标位于右侧。
And it just tells the customers who we are.
它只是告诉客户我们是谁。
You got "Chad's Best Friend," you got "Chad's Brother," "Chad's Dad." And we had "Chad's Mom," too.
你有“查德最好的朋友”，你有“查德的兄弟”，“查德的爸爸”。我们还有“查德的妈妈”。
But she's doing other things.
但她正在做其他事情。
This is the story of Chad's Trading Post.
这是乍得贸易站的故事。
From the time he was 12, Chad and his brothers and a few friends had always talked about starting a small restaurant together when they graduated high school.
从 12 岁起，查德就一直和他的兄弟以及几个朋友谈论高中毕业后一起开一家小餐馆。
They had planned out menus, Chad's father took him looking for locations.
他们已经计划好了菜单，查德的父亲带他寻找地点。
But Chad died in a shooting accident two days before his 16th birthday.
但查德在 16 岁生日前两天因枪击事故身亡。
Chad's father, Glenn, his brothers Scott and Cory, and his best friend, Mike, tell the story.
查德的父亲格伦、他的兄弟斯科特和科里以及他最好的朋友迈克讲述了这个故事。
The boy who shot and killed my son was his younger brother's best friend.
枪杀我儿子的男孩是他弟弟最好的朋友。
It was myself and my best friend at the time and Chad.
这是我自己、我当时最好的朋友和查德。
And they were cleaning up the cellar for his birthday.
他们正在为他的生日清理地窖。
Oh, you were there too.
哦，你也在那里。
Yeah, we were in the kitchen cooking sausage.
是的，我们在厨房里煮香肠。
But they were downstairs cleaning, and I was upstairs.
但他们在楼下打扫卫生，我在楼上。
My mother had just left.
我妈妈刚刚离开。
And me and Cory were upstairs cooking dinner.
我和科里正在楼上做饭。
And they came up for a break, went in the room.
他们上来休息一下，走进房间。
And then we heard like a little firecracker go off.
然后我们听到像一个小鞭炮爆炸的声音。
Then the person came out of the room.
然后那个人就从房间里走了出来。
He had blood on his hands.
他的手上沾满了血。
And he's freaking out.
他吓坏了。
I shot Chad.
我射杀了查德。
I shot Chad.
我射杀了查德。
The official ruling which was that Chad picked up a gun, pointed it at this fellow, said bang.
官方裁决是查德拿起枪，指向这个家伙，“砰”的一声。
The other fellow picked up a gun, pointed it back at Chad, pulled the trigger, and that was all.
另一个家伙拿起一把枪，将它指向查德，扣动扳机，仅此而已。
So I called 911, then I paged my mother, and then the police got there.
于是我拨打了 911，然后又给我妈妈打电话，然后警察就到了。
I was charged for involuntary manslaughter because it was my handgun that ultimately killed Chad, and that I was not aware that he had two of my handguns out of my cabinet in his bedroom at the time.
我被指控过失杀人罪，因为最终杀死查德的是我的手枪，而且我当时并不知道他卧室的柜子里有我的两把手枪。
And frankly, that was something I should have been aware of.
坦率地说，这是我应该意识到的事情。
In 1993, the year Chad would have graduated from high school, the year he and Mike and his brothers and his father had planned to open a restaurant, they decided to open Chad's Trading Post.
1993 年，也就是查德高中毕业的那一年，他和迈克、他的兄弟以及他的父亲计划开一家餐馆的那一年，他们决定开设查德贸易站。
This is Chad's corner of the restaurant.
这是餐厅查德的一角。
Notice the menu board.
注意菜单板。
It tells you to "Welcome to Chad's Trading Post Family Restaurant." It says, "Nobody leaves hungry" and lists all the specials of the day.
它告诉你“欢迎来到乍得的贸易站家庭餐厅”。上面写着“没有人会饿着肚子离开”，并列出了当天的所有特色菜。
It also has a claimer on the bottom that it's named in memory of Chad D.
它的底部还有一个声称者，它的名字是为了纪念 Chad D.
McDonald, and the date of his birth, which is 3/12/74.
麦克唐纳，以及他的出生日期，即 3/12/74。
In all of the interviews I've ever heard and seen of an emotional nature, the person answering questions doesn't begin to cry until well into the interview.
在我听过和见过的所有情绪化的采访中，回答问题的人直到采访结束后才开始哭泣。
Chad's dad began crying before I even turned on my tape recorder.
我还没打开录音机，查德的爸爸就开始哭了。
I asked him for a quick tour of the restaurant.
我请他快速参观了一下餐厅。
It's a nice place.
这是一个不错的地方。
Homey, even froufy, though all the men who created it are tattooed, muscly, working class guys, Chad's father included.
尽管所有创造它的人都是有纹身、肌肉发达的工人阶级，包括查德的父亲，但它很温馨，甚至有些蓬松。
To the left of that, shows you the last and most recent picture of my son, which was taken about six weeks before he died.
左边是我儿子的最后一张也是最近的照片，这张照片是在他去世前六周左右拍摄的。
And the picture of the two boys that were named in memory of him, his younger brother's son, who is Ian Chadwick, and his best friend's son who is named Chad Michael.
还有两个男孩的照片，这是为了纪念他而命名的，他弟弟的儿子伊恩·查德威克（Ian Chadwick）和他最好朋友的儿子查德·迈克尔（Chad Michael）。
This photo originally showed the two babies in Glenn's arms.
这张照片最初显示的是格伦怀里的两个婴儿。
But they had the photographer alter the photo and insert Chad's head over Glenn's.
但他们让摄影师修改了照片，把查德的头放在格伦的头上。
And what they did was took the picture and replaced, by computer, Chad's picture over mine.
他们所做的就是拍下照片并通过计算机将查德的照片替换为我的照片。
It's actually my arms holding them, but the rest of it's all Chad.
实际上是我的手臂抱着它们，但其余的都是查德。
Glenn showed me a painting in another corner of the restaurant.
格伦给我看了餐厅另一个角落的一幅画。
It was the comedy and tragedy masks from the cover of Motley Crue's album, Theatre of Pain, Chad's favorite record.
这是莫特利·克鲁的专辑《痛苦剧场》封面上的喜剧和悲剧面具，查德最喜欢的唱片。
After he died, Chad's friends and brothers adapted the design into a memorial to him.
在他去世后，查德的朋友和兄弟将这个设计改编成他的纪念碑。
It appears on their shirts.
它出现在他们的衬衫上。
Two brass masks hang over the door smiling and frowning.
两个黄铜面具挂在门上，微笑着皱着眉头。
A huge flag with the masks hangs in the breeze outside, too heavy to flutter.
外面微风中悬挂着一面带有面具的巨大旗帜，沉重得无法飘扬。
Chad's brother, Scott, calls them the faces.
查德的兄弟斯科特称它们为“面孔”。
This was my first tattoo I got, the comedy and tragedy faces with the in memory of Chad banner.
这是我的第一个纹身，喜剧和悲剧的面孔，还有纪念乍得的横幅。
And that was my first tattoo.
那是我的第一个纹身。
And I got that for the obvious reason.
我得到这个的原因很明显。
That's pretty much the family symbol now.
现在这几乎是家庭的象征。
It started off with my father getting-- because this was the tattoo he wanted to get without the banners.
这一切都是从我父亲开始的——因为这是他想要在没有横幅的情况下纹的纹身。
But that's what he wanted to get.
但这就是他想要得到的。
That's what he planned on getting the following year for his birthday.
这就是他计划明年生日时得到的礼物。
He already had it planned out.
他已经计划好了。
So my father came home with it one day and he got it.
有一天，我父亲带着它回家，他得到了它。
You and your dad though, aren't the only ones?
但你和你爸爸不是唯一的吗？
No, there's me and my father, Steve [UNINTELLIGIBLE].
不，有我和我的父亲史蒂夫[无法辨认]。
Mike [UNINTELLIGIBLE], who still works here.
迈克[无法辨认]，他仍然在这里工作。
My grandmother has the sad face.
我的祖母满脸悲伤。
Eric [UNINTELLIGIBLE].
埃里克[听不清]。
A tattoo?
纹身？
Scott Yeah, she has it on her chest too.
斯科特 是的，她胸前也有它。
And Eric [UNINTELLIGIBLE] who worked here has it also.
在这里工作的埃里克[无法辨认]也有它。
And it's good.
这很好。
It's nice to see people.
很高兴见到人们。
There's probably, all together, 15 people that have his name tattooed on them.
总共可能有 15 个人身上纹有他的名字。
We used to sit around the kitchen table and take a needle and wrap thread around it and dip it in calligraphy ink and tattoo each other with it.
我们常常坐在厨房的桌子旁，拿一根针，缠上一根线，蘸上书法墨水，然后互相纹身。
And there's quite a few people who we masterfully tattooed Chad's name on their arm.
我们巧妙地将查德的名字纹在了很多人的手臂上。
Whether they like it now or not, it's still there.
不管他们现在喜欢与否，它仍然在那里。
They've tried to stay as close to Chad's vision of the restaurant as possible.
他们试图尽可能接近乍得对餐厅的愿景。
He never specified decor, so they've had a free hand there.
他从未指定装饰，所以他们可以自由支配。
He and Mike actually drafted a menu for the place.
他和迈克实际上为这个地方起草了一份菜单。
And the family has kept about half of it.
家里保留了大约一半。
The other half was slow baking recipes that no customer would ever wait for.
另一半是慢速烘焙食谱，没有顾客会等待。
Chad was also a lot of fun, everyone says.
大家都说，查德也很有趣。
A lot of fun.
很有趣。
A comedian.
一个喜剧演员。
And they say that's why they joke around so much at Chad's Trading Post.
他们说这就是为什么他们在乍得贸易站开那么多玩笑的原因。
Scott says when he sees a heavy set customer that comes in a lot he says, hey Tubby.
斯科特说，当他看到一个经常来的大牌顾客时，他会说，嘿，塔比。
He builds towers of little creamer packages on the bald head of another customer.
他在另一位顾客的光头上堆起了小奶精包装塔。
Glenn throws crumpled up napkins at his employees.
格伦向他的员工扔皱巴巴的餐巾。
They have water fights.
他们打水仗。
All this levity in a place that's essentially a large roadside memorial that serves massive omelets.
所有这些热闹的地方本质上都是一个大型路边纪念馆，供应大量煎蛋卷。
If Chad was here, we'd have the place upside down by now.
如果查德在这里的话，我们现在已经把这个地方搞得天翻地覆了。
How do you mean?
你是什么意思？
Mike Oh, it's in fun.
迈克哦，这很有趣。
We really have fun now.
我们现在真的很开心。
But I think if he was here, we wouldn't have all that tension of his passing on our shoulder.
但我认为，如果他在这里，我们就不会因为他去世而感到紧张。
The only tension we'd have is, how much trouble are we going to get into?
我们唯一的紧张是，我们会遇到多少麻烦？
I have got to say, when I was here with Mary Ellen and we didn't know anything about the restaurant either.
我不得不说，当我和玛丽·艾伦在这里时，我们对这家餐厅也一无所知。
Obviously, we just found it.
显然，我们刚刚发现它。
The first thing we saw was the menu and then we saw the back of Scott's shirt.
我们首先看到的是菜单，然后我们看到了斯科特衬衫的背面。
And it was a little creepy, in a way.
从某种程度上来说，这有点令人毛骨悚然。
I've never gotten that response before, never gotten the response that that was creepy.
我以前从未收到过这样的答复，从未收到过令人毛骨悚然的答复。
I always got the response that that's a very nice thing to do.
我总是得到这样的回应：这是一件非常好的事情。
It's very genuine and it's heartwarming.
这是非常真诚的，也是非常温暖人心的。
I've never gotten creepy before.
我以前从来没有感到毛骨悚然。
Well, I just mean it's like there's somebody else here in the restaurant that's not really here.
嗯，我只是想说，餐厅里好像还有一个人，但他并不真正在这里。
You know what I mean?
你知道我的意思？
And that's exactly what it is.
事实就是如此。
He's here.
他在这里。
He's here with us.
他和我们在一起。
And we kind of have to yell at him once in a while, because every time something silly or stupid happens, you've got to blame somebody.
我们有时不得不对他大喊大叫，因为每次发生愚蠢或愚蠢的事情时，你都必须责怪某人。
And he's one to pull a prank on me for that.
他就是一个为此对我恶作剧的人。
He's definitely here.
他肯定在这里。
But there's nothing creepy about it.
但这并没有什么令人毛骨悚然的。
I think I can safely say I have never seen any other family keep someone alive to this degree.
我想我可以有把握地说，我从未见过任何其他家庭让一个人活到这个程度。
They've gone out of their way to construct a world where they couldn't possibly forget Chad.
他们不遗余力地构建了一个他们不可能忘记查德的世界。
A jumbo-sized photo of Chad stood behind Scott and his wife at their wedding.
在斯科特和他的妻子的婚礼上，一张查德的巨型照片站在他们的身后。
They believe Chad has protected their lives in serious accidents, that he brought Mike's son through a recent infection unscathed.
他们相信查德在严重事故中保护了他们的生命，他让迈克的儿子毫发无伤地度过了最近的一次感染。
Chad's room is the same as it was the day he was shot in it, with two exceptions.
查德的房间与他被枪击当天的房间一模一样，但有两处例外。
They took down the girlie pictures from the wall and they replaced the carpet.
他们把墙上的少女照片拿下来，换上了地毯。
Before they did all this, right after Chad died, they all say they were lost.
在他们做这一切之前，查德死后不久，他们都说他们迷路了。
Mike said he wanted to crawl into a hole.
迈克说他想爬进洞里。
Scott and his father had to make a deal with each other that neither would kill himself.
斯科特和他的父亲必须达成协议，双方都不会自杀。
Scott and Cory went into counseling.
斯科特和科里开始接受咨询。
Scott says it didn't help much.
斯科特说这没有多大帮助。
But that's how it was when it happened.
但事情发生时就是这样。
You didn't know what to do.
你不知道该怎么办。
I had no idea what to do.
我不知道该怎么办。
I walked in the bathroom, I'd look in the mirror, and I'm staring at myself in the mirror.
我走进浴室，照镜子，看着镜子里的自己。
And I flipped out and started punching the mirror.
我突然发疯，开始敲打镜子。
So now both my hands are cut, and I'm bleeding all over the place, and sitting on the floor crying.
现在我双手都被割伤了，流血了，坐在地上哭。
And I have no idea why.
我不知道为什么。
When you're that old and something like that happens, you don't have any idea what to do in any circumstance.
当你这么老了，发生类似的事情时，你不知道在任何情况下该怎么做。
Walking across a bridge looking down.
走过桥往下看。
Yeah, maybe.
是的，也许吧。
You sit there and think about it for a few minutes.
你坐在那里想了几分钟。
It takes a lot out of you.
这需要你付出很多。
It takes a lot out of your mind.
这需要你花很多心思。
And counseling made it worse for a while.
心理咨询一度让情况变得更糟。
What made it better, what Glenn says saved them, was starting the family business, Chad's business.
格伦说，是什么让事情变得更好，拯救了他们，是创办家族企业，查德的企业。
I think everybody grieves in a different way.
我认为每个人悲伤的方式都不同。
For me it is, because I'm doing something constructive.
对我来说是的，因为我正在做一些有建设性的事情。
I was semi-retired and disabled before.
我之前处于半退休状态并且残疾。
I'm still disabled, but I was just vegging.
我仍然是残疾人，但我只是在闲逛。
I was sitting at home, feeling sorry for myself, and doing nothing.
我坐在家里，为自己感到难过，什么也没做。
When the restaurant idea came up from his brother Scott, and we started looking into it rather seriously, we found the place, it was almost like a breath of fresh air.
当他的兄弟斯科特提出餐厅的想法时，我们开始相当认真地研究它，我们找到了这个地方，它几乎就像呼吸新鲜空气一样。
It was something we could all do in memory of his brother and have some fun with it.
我们都可以做这样的事情来纪念他的兄弟，并从中获得一些乐趣。
And we have for seven years.
我们已经有七年了。
Healthy?
健康？
I don't know.
我不知道。
The psychiatrists say many different things.
精神科医生说了很多不同的话。
People who blithely say things will get better over time have never been here.
那些兴高采烈地说随着时间的推移事情会变得更好的人从来没有来过这里。
Things never get better.
事情永远不会变得更好。
They get a little less immediate.
他们不太直接。
So we work this in memory of him as a way of keeping him immediate to us.
因此，我们这样做是为了纪念他，以此让他与我们保持联系。
Nobody forgets.
没有人会忘记。
We get along this way.
我们就这样相处着。
We get by this way.
我们就这样走过来了。
The whole bunch of us get by this way.
我们大家都是这样走过来的。
In Northampton, where I used to live there was a couple, and they own a cafe.
在我以前住过的北安普顿，有一对夫妇，他们拥有一家咖啡馆。
And at one point, they had a child who lived 19 days.
有一次，他们生了一个活了 19 天的孩子。
And after they disconnected him from life support, they built a shrine in their restaurant for him.
在他们切断他的生命维持系统后，他们在餐厅里为他建造了一座神殿。
Pictures of him connected to white tubes dotted the walls and beams.
他的照片连接着白色的管子，点缀在墙壁和横梁上。
And his father, a musician, would perform a song at the cafe-- weekly, as I remember it-- comparing his son to a [?
他的父亲是一位音乐家，他会在咖啡馆表演一首歌——我记得是每周一次——把他的儿子比作一个[？
salmon ?] and to the messiah.
鲑鱼？]还有救世主。
And some of us, at first, though we knew it had to be hard, felt a little embarrassed for them.
我们中的一些人一开始虽然知道这一定很困难，但还是为他们感到有点尴尬。
As though this tragedy had driven them a little crazy.
仿佛这场悲剧让他们有些疯狂。
I think it's hard for us to know exactly what to do or say when we see public mourning like this because we see it so rarely.
我认为，当我们看到这样的公众哀悼时，我们很难确切地知道该怎么做或说什么，因为我们很少看到这种情况。
The intensity of it is shocking.
其强度令人震惊。
It's too naked.
这也太赤裸了
And usually we think that if you hold onto someone after their death this way, you can't live your own life.
通常我们认为，如果你在某人死后仍以这种方式抓住他们，你就无法过自己的生活。
But clearly you can.
但显然你可以。
Sean Cole is a reporter at WBUR Radio in Boston.
肖恩·科尔 (Sean Cole) 是波士顿 WBUR 电台的记者。
In the years since we first broadcast this story, Chad's Trading Post closed its doors.
自从我们第一次广播这个故事以来的几年里，乍得的贸易站关门了。
The family is keeping Chad's memory alive in a new restaurant, Chad's Good Table, 10 minutes away in Westfield, Massachusetts.
这家人在距离马萨诸塞州韦斯特菲尔德 10 分钟路程的一家新餐厅 Chad's Good Table 中保留了查德的记忆。
Coming up, what's more dangerous, a borrowed military vehicle filled with family members or the rough and tumble world of the cleaning supply business?
接下来，哪个更危险，是一辆载满家人的借来的军车，还是清洁用品行业的混乱世界？
That's in a minute, from Public Radio International, when our program continues.
稍后，国际公共广播电台将继续我们的节目。
It's This American Life.
这就是美国生活。
I'm Ira Glass.
我是艾拉·格拉斯。
Each week on our program, of course, we choose a theme, invite a variety of different people to take a whack at that theme with different kinds of stories.
当然，在我们的节目中，我们每周都会选择一个主题，邀请不同的人用不同类型的故事来探讨这个主题。
Today's program, family businesses, what happens when blood has to handle money.
今天的节目，家族企业，当血液必须处理金钱时会发生什么。
We have arrived at Act Three of our program.
我们已经到了我们计划的第三幕了。
Act Three, Family Photo Opp.
第三幕，全家福。
This is the story of a family that lurched briefly into a new business, the business of politics.
这是一个关于一个家庭短暂涉足新行业——政治行业的故事。
Bill Eggers was 31, working for a free market think tank in Los Angeles, consulting with mayors, governors, and future presidents about privatizing and downsizing government services.
比尔·艾格斯 (Bill Eggers) 31 岁，在洛杉矶的一家自由市场智库工作，为市长、州长和未来的总统提供有关政府服务私有化和缩减规模的咨询。
He wrote a book on the subject, which Newt Gingrich endorsed on the cover at a time when that endorsement meant a whole lot.
他就这个主题写了一本书，纽特·金里奇在封面上表示了认可，当时这种认可意义重大。
And then, well, his brother Dave tells what happened next.
然后，他的兄弟戴夫讲述了接下来发生的事情。
No one is caring about the Hummer.
没有人关心悍马。
We are driving by, smooth and shiny, but no one is caring.
我们开车经过，光滑而闪亮，但没有人关心。
It is bright red, this Hummer.
这是鲜红色的，这辆悍马。
And is powerful and gorgeous, this Hummer.
这辆悍马动力强劲、华丽。
And we are driving it slow, its wheels new and inky black, through Manhattan Beach, through Redondo Beach, past the boardwalks and t-shirt shops and retailers of frog-shaped paper weights fashioned from seashells.
我们开着它，它的轮子又新又黑，慢慢地开着，穿过曼哈顿海滩，穿过雷东多海滩，经过木板路、T恤店和用贝壳制成的青蛙形状的镇纸零售商。
And while we are driving, we are waving and honking gently.
当我们开车时，我们会轻轻地挥手并按喇叭。
And every so often we are saying, vote for Eggers, because my brother Bill is running for state representative and the election is tomorrow.
我们经常说，投票给艾格斯，因为我的兄弟比尔正在竞选州代表，而选举就在明天。
The day is watercolor blue and I am with Bill, my younger brother, Toph, and this guy, Kevin, Bill's best friend from college who has taken a few weeks leave from his job as a toilet paper sales rep to help with the campaign's homestretch.
这一天是水彩蓝色的，我和比尔、我的弟弟托夫以及比尔大学时最好的朋友凯文在一起，他从卫生纸销售代表的工作中请了几个星期的假来帮助竞选活动的最后冲刺。
This is the fall of 1998, and Bill is running in California's South Bay, just below Los Angeles, as a Republican against someone named George Nakano, a Democratic incumbent.
这是 1998 年秋天，比尔作为共和党人在加利福尼亚州南湾（就在洛杉矶下方）竞选，对手是民主党现任议员乔治·中野。
Kevin is driving us around in a Humvee because we are quite sure-- who could doubt it-- that everyone will like the Hummer, it being red and wide and shiny, imperious and yet oddly whimsical.
凯文开着一辆悍马载着我们到处转，因为我们非常确定——谁会怀疑——每个人都会喜欢悍马，它是红色的、宽大的、闪亮的、专横的，但又奇怪地异想天开。
They will like the Hummer and will then like my brother and will vote for him and he win.
他们会喜欢悍马，然后会喜欢我的兄弟，并投票给他，他会赢。
We drive through an office park where a group of men in white shirts and ties are eating their lunch.
我们开车穿过一个办公园区，一群穿着白衬衫打领带的男人正在吃午餐。
They look at the Hummer as we go by.
当我们经过时，他们看着悍马。
They are first surprised, surely by the startling beauty and power of this vehicle.
他们首先感到惊讶，当然是这辆车令人惊叹的美丽和力量。
And then they look at the signs papering the Hummer's sides, those bearing my brother's name.
然后他们看着悍马车侧面的标牌，上面写着我哥哥的名字。
Then they go back to eating their lunch.
然后他们回去吃午餐。
Kevin waves.
凯文挥手。
They were definitely impressed, he says.
他说，他们肯定印象深刻。
That's three votes right there, Bill says.
比尔说，这就是三票。
We all laugh.
我们都笑了。
Campaigns are fun.
活动很有趣。
We came out from New York for this.
我们为此从纽约而来。
Bill had been asking gently for weeks if there was any way Toph and I could come out for the election.
几周来，比尔一直温和地询问我和托芙是否可以出来参加选举。
After telling him that we couldn't possibly make it-- Toph was right in the middle of his sophomore year in high school-- finally, we surprised him, flew out to help with the last couple days of the campaign.
在告诉他我们不可能成功之后——托夫当时正在读高中二年级——最终，我们让他大吃一惊，飞出去帮助处理竞选活动的最后几天。
When we got to LA, we were prepared for Bill to be edgy, wired with worry-- the details, the last minute polls, phone calls, all the money he had spent.
当我们到达洛杉矶时，我们已经做好了比尔会变得急躁、充满担忧的准备——细节、最后一刻的民意调查、电话、他花掉的所有钱。
The cumulative weight of a yearlong campaign.
一年活动的累积权重。
But then as were waiting for our luggage, Bill crept up behind us.
但当我们在等行李时，比尔悄悄来到我们身后。
Boo, he yelled, grabbing us both around the neck, then holding us in a double headlock, roaring.
嘘，他喊道，抓住我们俩的脖子，然后用双头锁住我们，咆哮着。
Good lord, there was no way we expected him to pick us up at the airport.
天啊，我们根本没想到他会来机场接我们。
Didn't he have better things to do?
难道他没有更好的事情要做吗？
Wouldn't he be desperately running from house to house yelling his name, bursting into crowded restaurants, reminding people of his presence?
他不会拼命地挨家挨户地跑着喊着自己的名字，冲进拥挤的餐馆，提醒人们他的存在吗？
His message?
他的消息？
His destiny?
他的命运？
No, he was picking us up at the airport, in his convertible, in a polo shirt and khakis.
不，他穿着 Polo 衫和卡其裤，开着敞篷车去机场接我们。
As we left airport and slid into the highway, I asked how things looked odds-wise.
当我们离开机场并驶入高速公路时，我问事情看起来如何。
Well, it's hard to tell, he said.
嗯，这很难说，他说。
Hard to tell.
很难说。
Hard to tell.
很难说。
Hey, you guys hungry?
嘿，你们饿了吗？
We should get us some burritos or something.
我们应该买一些墨西哥卷饼什么的。
So we got us some burritos.
所以我们买了一些墨西哥卷饼。
Whoop, someone just noticed the Hummer.
哎呀，有人刚刚注意到悍马。
An older man walking in the crosswalk in front of us, himself in khakis and a polo shirt, just saw the signs and waved.
一位穿着卡其裤和马球衫的老人走在我们前面的人行横道上，他看到了标志并挥手致意。
We all waved back.
我们都挥手回应。
Vote tomorrow, Kevin yells out the window.
明天投票，凯文向窗外喊道。
The man gives a thumbs up.
男人竖起了大拇指。
Kevin drives slow, honks repeatedly.
凯文开得很慢，不停地按喇叭。
He and Bill are waving.
他和比尔在挥手。
There is little in the way of waving back.
几乎没有什么可以挥手回应的。
Kevin debates whether he should be honking more, or maybe driving faster or slower.
凯文争论他是否应该更多地按喇叭，或者开得更快或更慢。
We all agree that so far his driving is fine, but that in the future, we need to be more discerning about the route.
我们都同意，到目前为止他的驾驶状况还不错，但将来我们需要对路线更加挑剔。
For example, the trip through the high school parking lot might have been a bit unnecessary, so few of those kids being of voting age.
例如，穿过高中停车场的旅程可能有点不必要，所以这些孩子中很少有达到投票年龄的。
Yeah, but the kids love the Hummer, he says.
是的，但孩子们喜欢悍马，他说。
And it's true.
这是真的。
Kids love the Hummer.
孩子们喜欢悍马。
Midway through the campaign, even after garnering endorsements from Pete Wilson, Milton Friedman, and Drew Carey, even after one of Bill's consultants had linked his opponent, Nakano, to everything from drugs in schools to death of cancer patients to various bus accidents, Bill was still lagging about a dozen or so points behind.
竞选中期，即使在获得皮特·威尔逊、米尔顿·弗里德曼和德鲁·凯里的支持之后，即使比尔的一位顾问将他的对手中野与从学校毒品到癌症患者死亡到各种公共汽车事故等各种事情联系起来，比尔仍然落后大约十几分。
There was all kinds of speculation why.
人们有各种各样的猜测。
Maybe Bill seemed too academic, too wonky.
也许比尔看起来太学术了，太古怪了。
Maybe the anti-Republican sentiment-- this was just after the impeachment, remember-- was rubbing off on poor Bill.
也许反共和党情绪——记住，这是在弹劾之后——正在影响可怜的比尔。
And maybe it was because Bill seemed rootless, lacking that comforting one of us feeling.
也许是因为比尔似乎没有根基，缺乏我们当中那种令人安慰的感觉。
He was single, had grown up in Chicago.
他是单身，在芝加哥长大。
Had no kids in the schools.
学校里没有孩子。
Didn't own a house.
没有自己的房子。
While Nakano was 60ish, a married man with children, a mortgage, a rock garden, everything.
中野六十多岁了，已婚，有孩子，有抵押贷款，有一个假山花园，什么都有。
Thus began a process of shoring up Bill's family side, a process that Bill entered reluctantly.
由此开始了一个支持比尔家族的过程，而比尔是不情愿地进入这个过程的。
My older sister Beth and I signed our name to a flyer that talked about how much Bill had helped out with the raising of young Toph since our parents passed on seven years earlier.
我和姐姐贝丝在一张传单上签下了我们的名字，传单讲述了自从我们的父母七年前去世以来，比尔为抚养小托芙提供了多少帮助。
And how the values instilled by our mom and dad-- may they rest in peace, sniff, sniff-- were being respected and carried out by Bill.
以及我们的父母灌输的价值观——愿他们安息，嗅嗅，嗅嗅——是如何被比尔尊重和贯彻的。
And how he wanted only to create a community fit for the family he soon hoped to have, et cetera, et cetera.
他只想创建一个适合他很快希望拥有的家庭的社区，等等。
You get the idea.
你明白了。
And though Bill was nervous at first about whether or not Beth and I would lend our names to the campaign, given that politically I'm far left of Bill, and Beth's far left of me, neither of us blinked really, didn't think twice.
尽管比尔一开始对贝丝和我是否愿意将我们的名字借给竞选活动感到紧张，但考虑到在政治上我是比尔的极左，而贝丝又是我的极左，但我们俩都没有真正眨眼，没有多想。
First of all, I had never in my life known the name of my own state representative.
首先，我一生中从来不知道我自己的州代表的名字。
So I figured the office was mostly for the entertainment and advancement of its holder.
所以我认为办公室主要是为了其主人的娱乐和进步。
Thus, the damage Bill could do would be pretty minimal.
因此，比尔可能造成的损害非常小。
In the Hummer, we drive through a major intersection, six lanes.
开着悍马，我们驶过一个主要的十字路口，有六车道。
A mall on one side, condos on the other.
一侧是购物中心，另一侧是公寓。
Bill points to the median.
比尔指着中位数。
That's it.
就是这样。
That's where I had to stand.
那就是我必须站立的地方。
What do you mean, Toph asks.
“你什么意思？”托夫问道。
The consultants said I had to go out there and stand, waving to the cars going by.
顾问们说我必须出去站着，向经过的车辆挥手致意。
I did it three times, six hours each time waving to every car.
我做了三次，每次六个小时，向每辆车挥手。
We discussed this.
我们讨论了这个问题。
We were often discussing the wisdom of the consultants' various ideas and initiatives.
我们经常讨论顾问的各种想法和举措的智慧。
I'm beginning to wonder just how good these consultants could be if they think a candidate should be standing in the middle of a highway in a suit waving to people on their way to Radio Shack.
我开始想知道，如果这些顾问认为候选人应该穿着西装站在高速公路中间，向前往广播小屋的人们挥手致意，那么他们会做得有多好。
This was endearing?
这很可爱吗？
This commanded the respect of voters?
这赢得了选民的尊重？
Maybe they'll feel bad for you, Toph says.
托夫说，也许他们会为你感到难过。
Bill laughs.
比尔笑了。
He's been laughing a lot lately.
他最近笑得很多。
This campaign has been killing him.
这场运动已经害死了他。
A few years ago, Bill lent his name to a conference in DC, one centered around the discussion of exactly where private companies might fit in should welfare or portions of its processes be privatized.
几年前，比尔在华盛顿举行的一次会议上以自己的名字命名，会议的重点是讨论如果福利或其部分流程私有化，私营公司可能适合的具体位置。
Now, the conference was not planned so well.
现在看来，这次会议并没有计划得那么好。
A meeting about poor people held at the swank Park Hyatt and costing $1,300 per participant.
一场关于穷人的会议在豪华的柏悦酒店举行，每位参与者花费 1,300 美元。
It was a PR nightmare.
这是一场公关噩梦。
And easy pickings for someone like liberal bon vivant, Barbara Ehrenreich, who oozed in with an article more or less written before she darkened the doorway.
对于像芭芭拉·埃伦瑞奇（Barbara Ehrenreich）这样的自由派、享乐主义的人来说，这是很容易的选择，她在把门弄黑之前，带着一篇或多或少写好的文章悄悄溜进来。
And after lambasting the whole affair, quite effectively and often justly by the way, she saved some of her most condescending vitriol for Bill, who never saw it coming.
顺便说一句，在严厉斥责了整个事件之后，她把一些最居高临下的尖酸刻薄的话留给了比尔，而比尔却从未料到会发生这样的事情。
She describes him shrugging off policy questions while turning to his dessert.
她描述说，他一边吃着甜点，一边对政策问题不屑一顾。
A quote, "Five inch high structure of ice cream and chocolate.
引用一句：“五英寸高的冰淇淋和巧克力结构。
Now dribbling promiscuously into a brown and white pool," end quote.
现在，混杂地运入棕色和白色的水池，”引用结束语。
Nice job, if obviously the work of a journalist desperately stretching an anecdote to fill a metaphorical void.
干得好，显然是一名记者拼命地延伸轶事来填补隐喻空白的工作。
When he saw it, Bill couldn't believe it.
当比尔看到这一幕时，简直不敢相信。
He was angry and hurt, but nowhere near as angry as I was.
他很生气，也很受伤，但远没有我那么生气。
You have got to help me write a response, he said.
“你必须帮我写一封回复，”他说。
Yes, yes, please, I said.
是的，是的，拜托，我说。
So we spent a few days working together on a letter.
所以我们花了几天时间一起写一封信。
And oh, man, did I have some ideas.
哦，伙计，我有一些想法吗？
First, we'd call the fact checkers and tear the thing to shreds.
首先，我们会打电话给事实核查人员，把事情撕成碎片。
Was the cake really five inches high?
蛋糕真的有五英寸高吗？
Was it served as she claims just as she asked him about welfare, or was it slightly before?
是像她声称的那样，就在她向他询问福利的时候，还是稍早之前就已经送达了？
Did the ice cream really dribble promiscuously?
冰淇淋真的乱滴了吗？
Then we'd dig into her other factual problems, then her politics, her agenda going in.
然后我们会深入研究她的其他实际问题，然后是她的政治观点、她的议程。
Never mind that I had written the same kinds of articles, that I wasn't exactly on Bill's side of this issue, and that her piece was, for the most part, dead on.
没关系，我写过同样类型的文章，在这个问题上我并不完全站在比尔一边，而且她的文章在很大程度上是完全正确的。
She had taken on the wrong family.
她接纳了错误的家庭。
Will the Eggers name be tarnished in the pages of Harper's magazine?
艾格斯的名字会在《哈珀》杂志的版面上受到玷污吗？
No. The answer is no.
不，答案是否定的。
So I drafted a withering response, laser accurate and dripping with condescension.
所以我起草了一份令人沮丧的回应，极其准确，而且充满了居高临下的感觉。
Every time I sat down, I added to it, injected more venom, more dismissals.
每次我坐下来，我都会添加更多的毒液，更多的解雇。
She would cry.
她会哭。
Her children would cry.
她的孩子们会哭。
Her pets would roll over and moan with agony.
她的宠物会翻滚并痛苦地呻吟。
But when I sent it to Bill for his approval, he had already gotten over it.
但当我把它寄给比尔征求他的批准时，他已经克服了这个问题。
I was still boiling, but he wasn't really mad anymore.
我仍然很生气，但他不再生气了。
He had put together his own letter, dry and curt, correcting a few facts and leaving it at that.
他自己写了一封信，干巴巴、简短，纠正了一些事实，然后就这样了。
It drove me nuts.
这让我发疯。
If only he had left it to me, the letter and now this campaign.
如果他把这封信和现在的竞选活动留给我就好了。
The flyers?
传单？
I could've done them better.
我本来可以做得更好。
The events I could've done better.
我本来可以做得更好的活动。
The media relations surely.
媒体关系肯定。
The mailers, the phone calls, the reminders.
邮件、电话、提醒。
His brother should have been doing them.
他的兄弟应该做这些事。
I should have come out for the campaign, the whole thing.
我应该出来参加竞选活动，整个事情。
Only I could have done it right.
只有我能做对。
Only family knows how to sell family.
只有家人才知道如何出卖家人。
There's a reason these things stay in the family and it has to do with passion and loyalty, ferocious loyalty.
这些东西留在家里是有原因的，它与激情和忠诚有关，非常忠诚。
We would brand our family's values, bring them to a grateful LA, and then a grateful nation.
我们将把我们家庭的价值观打上烙印，把他们带到一个感恩的洛杉矶，然后一个感恩的国家。
We would be the Kennedys, the Bushs.
我们将成为肯尼迪家族、布什家族。
I would be Bay Buchanan.
我会是巴伊·布坎南。
Kevin and Bill drop us off at the beach, so Toph and I can swim before sunset.
凯文和比尔把我们送到海滩，这样托芙和我就可以在日落之前游泳。
Then they head back to headquarters to supervise the final phone bank, where they'll warn voters one last time that a vote for George Nakano will be a vote for corruption, the mafia, bus accidents, and drugs in the hands of all children over four.
然后他们回到总部监督最后一个电话银行，在那里他们将最后一次警告选民，投票给乔治·中野将是投票给腐败、黑手党、公共汽车事故和所有四岁以上儿童手中的毒品。
Tomorrow they will vote and Bill will not win.
明天他们将投票，比尔不会获胜。
We'll go down to Manhattan's this cedary kind of bar and restaurant where we'll watch the results come in.
我们将前往曼哈顿的一家雪松风格的酒吧和餐厅，在那里我们将观看结果。
Toph and I will be wearing our khakis and light blue button downs, and we'll walk around and chat with the volunteers.
Toph 和我将穿着卡其裤和浅蓝色纽扣衬衫，我们会四处走动并与志愿者聊天。
On the big screen TV, the results for Bill's race will be shown infrequently.
大屏幕电视上偶尔会播放比尔的比赛结果。
Buried between those for Senate, House, governorships.
埋葬在参议院、众议院、州长之间。
We will see Bill's returns when only 2% or 3% of the precincts have reported.
当只有 2% 或 3% 的选区报告时，我们就会看到比尔的回报。
Then we'll stand around for a while longer.
然后我们再站一会儿。
And then suddenly his returns will be shown again, and the words on the screen will say that Eggers lost.
然后突然他的回报会再次显示，屏幕上会显示埃格斯输了。
Later, I will find Bill downstairs alone, in his suit, with his young face watching a bank of TVs.
后来，我会发现比尔独自在楼下，穿着西装，年轻的脸庞正在看一排电视。
I'm sorry, I will say.
对不起，我会说。
It's OK, he'll say.
没关系，他会说。
I knew it a while ago.
我不久前就知道了。
But why didn't you say so, I'll say.
但你为什么不这么说，我会说。
Why did you want us to come all the way out if you knew you were going to lose?
既然你知道自己会输，为什么还想让我们一路走出来？
Dave Eggers is the editor of McSweeney's at mcsweeneys.net.
Dave Eggers 是 mcsweeneys.net 上 McSweeney 的编辑。
William Eggers is now a senior fellow at the New York based Manhattan Institute for Policy Research.
威廉·艾格斯现在是纽约曼哈顿政策研究所的高级研究员。
He's the author of two new books on transforming government.
他是两本关于政府转型的新书的作者。
Most recent, Government 2.0.
最近的是政府 2.0。
Act Four, Every Unhappy Family Cleaning Supply Business is Unhappy in Its Own Way.
第四幕，每个不幸的家庭清洁用品企业都有自己的不幸。
People who study family businesses say that one of the biggest problems those companies face is the problem of secession.
研究家族企业的人士表示，家族企业面临的最大问题之一是分裂问题。
What happens when the younger generation comes into the business?
当年轻一代进入这个行业时会发生什么？
These conflicts can last decades.
这些冲突可能持续数十年。
This happened in Hillary Frank's family.
这发生在希拉里·弗兰克的家里。
My grandfather and his brother stopped speaking to their sister in 1963.
1963 年，我的祖父和他的兄弟不再和他们的妹妹说话。
I've seen old tin type photographs of her as a young woman, but I have never met my great aunt or anyone in her family.
我见过她年轻时的锡制旧照片，但我从未见过我的姑婆或她家里的任何人。
When I ask family members what happened, the answers are always foggy.
当我询问家人发生了什么事时，他们的答案总是模棱两可。
Nobody seems to know exactly what happened.
似乎没有人确切知道发生了什么。
Something in the family business.
家族企业中的一些事情。
The only living character from this shrouded past on the side of the family we still speak to is Mo, my grandfather's brother, my great uncle.
在我们仍然与之交谈的这个家庭中，唯一来自这段被笼罩的过去的活着的人物是莫，我祖父的兄弟，我的叔祖父。
He got in the business in the '30s.
他在30年代进入这个行业。
The trouble began after his nephew was hired.
麻烦是在他的侄子受聘后开始的。
He was my protege.
他是我的门生。
I was grooming him.
我正在给他梳毛。
He started out working in the warehouse.
他开始在仓库工作。
I was trying to teach him all the things that I knew and trying to get him into a role where at some point he could run that business.
我试图教他我所知道的所有事情，并试图让他担任一个角色，在某个时候他可以经营该业务。
Mo was in charge of the sales department.
莫负责销售部门。
There were two or three salesman who worked under him.
他手下有两三个推销员。
Your grandfather came in in a slot that he was not qualified for.
Your grandfather came in in a slot that he was not qualified for.
Had absolutely no right to be in that business.
绝对没有权利从事这项业务。
He was too nice a man.
他是一个太好的人了。
He had other interests that did not include the wear and tear of a dog-eat-dog business.
他还有其他兴趣，但不包括竞争激烈的生意中的磨损。
And the other people felt that he was holding up progress, and probably felt that for the money he was drawing, for the work he was doing, it was not a good deal for the business.
其他人则认为他阻碍了进展，并且可能认为对于他所抽取的资金、对于他正在做的工作来说，这对企业来说并不是一笔划算的交易。
I was protecting him all the time.
我一直在保护他。
One day in 1963, Mo got a letter from his nephew calling for a special meeting.
One day in 1963, Mo got a letter from his nephew calling for a special meeting.
Mo says this was unheard of in their business.
莫说这在他们的行业中是闻所未闻的。
He was certain that they were going to reduce his authority and fire my grandfather.
他确信他们会削弱他的权威并解雇我的祖父。
So he and my grandfather never showed up at the meeting.
So he and my grandfather never showed up at the meeting.
He never discussed it with his nephew.
他从未与他的侄子讨论过这件事。
The treachery involved to me was the biggest factor.
对我来说，背叛是最大的因素。
What I resented was the fact that my nephew, whom I had tutored, did not have the need or the desire to come and talk to me.
What I resented was the fact that my nephew, whom I had tutored, did not have the need or the desire to come and talk to me.
Say, look, Uncle, let's talk about this thing.
说吧，叔叔，我们来谈谈这件事吧。
We're running a business here, not a family society.
We're running a business here, not a family society.
I could have understood that rather than a cold letter announcing a meeting.
我本可以理解这一点，而不是一封冷冰冰的宣布会面的信。
To me, that was a knife in my back from my nephew.
To me, that was a knife in my back from my nephew.
And I got mad enough to say, I never liked this business in the first place.
And I got mad enough to say, I never liked this business in the first place.
And if I can get out now with my brother while the getting out is good, we'll do it.
And if I can get out now with my brother while the getting out is good, we'll do it.
And within a month, we were out of there.
一个月之内，我们就离开了那里。
Everyone in the family has a different version of this story and who is in the wrong.
Everyone in the family has a different version of this story and who is in the wrong.
You hear that Mo wanted to get out of the business anyway, that their side of the family blames the wives, not the men, for the following out.
You hear that Mo wanted to get out of the business anyway, that their side of the family blames the wives, not the men, for the following out.
The story I heard from my mother growing up is radically different from Mo's version.
The story I heard from my mother growing up is radically different from Mo's version.
It's very hard to imagine that my father was so ineffectual in his job that he needed to be protected.
It's very hard to imagine that my father was so ineffectual in his job that he needed to be protected.
I know that he was a conscientious businessman.
我知道他是一个有良心的商人。
And it's also hard for me to understand, because I've spent all these years under the belief that it was my uncle who was being pushed out and it was my father who left in support of him.
这对我来说也很难理解，因为这些年来我一直相信，是我的叔叔被赶了出来，是我的父亲为了支持他而离开了。
You know, part of the mystique of this whole incident is that nobody really seems to understand what happened.
You know, part of the mystique of this whole incident is that nobody really seems to understand what happened.
And yet, it caused so much pain.
然而，它却造成了如此多的痛苦。
Shortly after we got out, I got an invitation to my nephew's son's bar mitzvah.
Shortly after we got out, I got an invitation to my nephew's son's bar mitzvah.
I remember, in big red ink, writing on the invitation and sending it back, "Judas." Never attended the bar mitzvah.
I remember, in big red ink, writing on the invitation and sending it back, "Judas."从未参加过成人礼。
Never spoke to him again.
再也没有和他说过话。
Never spoke to my sister again.
再也没有和姐姐说过话。
The greatest effect that this had on the family was that my father had a heart attack a few months after the family dispute.
The greatest effect that this had on the family was that my father had a heart attack a few months after the family dispute.
It was pretty clear to everyone in the family that stress that he experienced, which was major, was a direct line cause of the heart attack.
It was pretty clear to everyone in the family that stress that he experienced, which was major, was a direct line cause of the heart attack.
The stress my mother is talking about had to do with family tension and what it's like to start over when you're 50.
The stress my mother is talking about had to do with family tension and what it's like to start over when you're 50.
But mostly, it had to do with money.
但最主要的是，这与金钱有关。
My grandfather was unemployed for two years.
我的祖父失业了两年。
For the first time in his life, he was clipping coupons.
For the first time in his life, he was clipping coupons.
He built his own storm windows from plastic sheeting and pieces of wood he found.
He built his own storm windows from plastic sheeting and pieces of wood he found.
My mother was 17 when he left the business and had planned on applying to Ivy League schools, but ended up having to go to the free city college instead.
我母亲 17 岁时离开公司，原本计划申请常春藤盟校，但最终不得不去免费城市学院。
And the family blamed my grandfather's sister.
家人责怪我祖父的姐姐。
Oh, bitterness is not the word.
哦，苦涩不是这个词。
There was anger that was fostered and nurtured in that house every single day to the tune of a Jewish expression that my grandmother had that translates to a fire on her.
在那所房子里，每一天都在滋生和滋生愤怒，就像我祖母所说的犹太人的表达方式一样，这意味着她身上有火。
The "her" being referred to was my aunt.
这里所说的“她”指的是我的阿姨。
For example, my grandmother was a really expert cook and baker.
For example, my grandmother was a really expert cook and baker.
And she was cooking on a stove in my parents' house that was really on its last legs.
And she was cooking on a stove in my parents' house that was really on its last legs.
And they talked about what kind of stove they could afford and if my grandmother was present for this conversation she would have said, a fire [UNINTELLIGIBLE].
他们讨论了他们能买得起什么样的炉子，如果我的祖母在场，她会说，生火[无法理解]。
There was always a direct relationship between what we couldn't afford and whose fault it was.
There was always a direct relationship between what we couldn't afford and whose fault it was.
Mo didn't talk to his sister or nephew for 35 years.
Mo didn't talk to his sister or nephew for 35 years.
Finally, when Mo's sister was, at the age of 90, going in for heart surgery, he got in touch with her.
Finally, when Mo's sister was, at the age of 90, going in for heart surgery, he got in touch with her.
It took another year before he could bring himself to forgive his nephew.
It took another year before he could bring himself to forgive his nephew.
I feel that I underwent a catharsis.
我觉得我经历了一次宣泄。
I cleaned out of my system something insidious that was hurting me, which was my anger.
I cleaned out of my system something insidious that was hurting me, which was my anger.
I got rid of that.
我摆脱了那个。
Life is short.
生命是短暂的。
You get to be this age, how many more years do you have?
You get to be this age, how many more years do you have?
Why waste them on something that's not productive for happiness?
Why waste them on something that's not productive for happiness?
Concentrate on the good things.
专注于美好的事情。
But in self-analysis and self-evaluation I ask myself this question.
但在自我分析和自我评价中我问自己这个问题。
If I had not done as well financially as I have done in the last three, four years, would I have reconciled?
If I had not done as well financially as I have done in the last three, four years, would I have reconciled?
Would I not have remembered the bitterness?
难道我就不会记得那些辛酸吗？
It was easier to reconcile with a full stomach.
吃饱更容易适应。
Mo's been trying to get my mother to reconcile as well, but she doesn't want to.
Mo's been trying to get my mother to reconcile as well, but she doesn't want to.
We don't really see eye to eye in terms of this reconciliation.
We don't really see eye to eye in terms of this reconciliation.
I don't feel any void in my life in not being in touch with the people who caused my parents and my grandmother and me so much pain.
我并不因为与那些给我的父母、祖母和我带来如此多痛苦的人失去联系而感到生活中的任何空虚。
Do you still feel angry?
你还觉得生气吗？
Hillary's Mother I've gotten to the point where I feel indifferent.
希拉里的母亲 我已经到了冷漠的地步了。
And I also feel a sense of loyalty to my parents.
我也对父母有一种忠诚感。
I think it would be presumptuous of me to supersede my parents in a way.
我认为在某种程度上取代我的父母是我的自以为是。
And beside that, it was important for me to make peace with people that they were content to be alienated from.
除此之外，与那些乐于疏远的人和平相处对我来说也很重要。
This is like a lot of family conflicts.
这就像很多家庭冲突一样。
One generation carries its anger to the grave, or maybe takes the time to reconcile.
一代人将愤怒带入坟墓，或者可能需要时间来和解。
But the children are a generation removed from the battle.
但孩子们是远离战争的一代人。
Across that distance, anger can turn to indifference.
越过这个距离，愤怒就会变成冷漠。
And by the time it gets to the third generation, my generation, it's just an interesting story.
到了第三代，即我这一代，这只是一个有趣的故事。
Hil, can I say one thing?
希尔，我可以说一件事吗？
The other thing about the family business is that my parents met there.
关于家族企业的另一件事是我的父母在那里相遇。
My father used to tell the tale that he was walking in the warehouse, and he tripped over a bolt, and that my mother, who was the secretary of the business, happened to be there.
我父亲常常讲这样的故事：他在仓库里行走，被螺栓绊倒，而我的母亲，她是公司的秘书，恰好也在场。
And she came to his rescue, and saved him, and picked him up.
她来救他，救了他，把他抱起来。
And that's how they met.
他们就是这样认识的。
How romantic.
多么浪漫啊。
Hillary's Mother It's very romantic.
希拉里的妈妈很浪漫。
And that was the most wonderful thing that came out of that business.
这是这项业务中最美妙的事情。
Hillary Frank.
希拉里·弗兰克.
When she's not doing radio stories, she writes novels for young people.
当她不做广播故事时，她为年轻人写小说。
Her most recent is called, I Can't Tell You.
她最近的作品叫做《我不能告诉你》。
[MUSIC- "TWO STORY HOUSE" BY GEORGE JONES AND TAMMY WYNETTE]
[音乐-乔治·琼斯和塔米·怀内特创作的“两层楼”]
Well, our program was produced today by Susan Burton and myself, with Alex Blumberg, Blue Chevigny, Julie Snyder, and Nancy Updike.
好吧，我们今天的节目是由苏珊·伯顿和我本人以及亚历克斯·布隆伯格、布鲁·切维尼、朱莉·斯奈德和南希·厄普代克制作的。
Production help from Todd Bachmann and Starlee Kine.
托德·巴赫曼 (Todd Bachmann) 和斯塔莉·凯恩 (Starlee Kine) 为制作提供帮助。
Elizabeth Meister runs our website.
伊丽莎白·梅斯特 (Elizabeth Meister) 负责运营我们的网站。
[ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS] Ira Glass Our website, www.thisamericanlife.org, where you can listen to our programs for absolutely free 24 hours a day.
[致谢] Ira Glass 我们的网站 www.thisamericanlife.org，您可以在其中每天 24 小时完全免费收听我们的节目。
Or you can download audio of our program at audible.com/thisamericanlife, where they have public radio programs, bestselling books, even the New York Times all at audible.com.
或者您可以在 audible.com/thisamericanlife 下载我们节目的音频，那里有公共广播节目、畅销书，甚至纽约时报都在 audible.com 上。
This American Life is distributed by Public Radio International.
《美国生活》由国际公共广播电台发行。
[FUNDING CREDITS] Ira Glass WBEZ management oversight for our program by Mr. Torey Malatia, who describes the family that is WBEZ this way--
[资金来源] Ira Glass WBEZ 管理部门由 Torey Malatia 先生对我们的项目进行监督，他这样描述 WBEZ 家族——
People who blithely say things will get better over time have never been here.
那些兴高采烈地说随着时间的推移事情会变得更好的人从来没有来过这里。
Things never get better.
事情永远不会变得更好。
I'm Ira Glass, back next week with more stories of This American Life.
我是艾拉·格拉斯，下周回来，带来更多《美国生活》的故事。
This American Life is produced in collaboration with WBEZ Chicago and delivered to stations by PRX The Public Radio Exchange.
《This American Life》与 WBEZ Chicago 合作制作，并由 PRX 公共广播电台传送到各电台。