When the grass isn't greener

[Thursdays at The Honest Broker are for case studies - don’t worry, we always change names/minor details and ask for permission.

[诚实经纪人的星期四是案例研究 - 别担心，我们总是更改名称/次要细节并请求许可。

This is never a form of shame, but rather, education.

这绝不是一种耻辱，而是一种教育。

People tend to receive knowledge best through experience or application of other’s experience.]

人们往往通过经验或他人经验的应用来最好地获取知识。]

Last year I got a call from a friend.

去年我接到一个朋友的电话。

He was referring a former and potential future colleague of his over to get a real estate consult.

他正在推荐他的一位前同事和未来潜在的同事来获取房地产咨询。

Ok…kind of an odd circumstance.

好吧……有点奇怪的情况。

Former and future colleague?

以前和未来的同事？

You got it right.

你说对了。

A colleague in his practice group had been sought out for a job many states away.

他的实践小组中的一位同事被寻找到许多州之外的工作。

Significant increase in pay, state of the art facilities, amazing career opportunity which then gave his spouse and kids lots of increased cushion and life opportunities.

工资的显着增加，最先进的设施，令人惊叹的职业机会，这给他的配偶和孩子带来了更多的缓冲和生活机会。

Of course, after multiple interviews, going out to visit and house hunting with the agent the organization paired him with they decided it was too great to pass up, despite being bummed to leave their home and network here.

当然，经过多次采访，与该组织配对的经纪人一起出去拜访和找房，他们决定放弃这个机会，尽管他们很不高兴离开这里的家和网络。

Well, the job was everything that was promised.

好吧，这份工作就是承诺的一切。

He loved it.

他喜欢它。

He spent a lot of time working, so the move wasn’t too rough for him.

他花了很多时间工作，所以这次搬家对他来说并不算太艰难。

That being said, there were four other people that were affected by this move - his spouse and 3 children.

话虽如此，还有其他四人受到这一举动的影响——他的配偶和三个孩子。

They had vastly different considerations in a move.

他们对此举有着截然不同的考虑。

What they loved about their first home and location was virtually impossible to replicate elsewhere.

他们对自己的第一个家和地点的热爱几乎不可能在其他地方复制。

They moved from semi-urban living, tons of kids in the neighborhood, great public schools that most people attend, parks/restaurants in every direction - walkable everywhere.

他们从半城市生活搬来，附近有大量的孩子，大多数人就读的优秀公立学校，各个方向都有公园/餐馆——到处都可以步行。

Close airport, downtown, tons of activities, easy commute, lots of access to dad even with his busy schedule.

靠近机场、市中心，有大量的活动，通勤方便，即使爸爸日程繁忙，也有很多机会与他联系。

They lived further outside the city, went to private school because the public schools weren’t what they hoped for, the community aspect was lacking, they had to drive in a car 20-30 minutes to do nearly everything, and zero walkability.

他们住在城外更远的地方，上私立学校，因为公立学校不是他们所希望的，社区方面缺乏，他们几乎需要开车20-30分钟才能完成所有事情，步行能力为零。

They traded an idyllic life (where they still had plenty of resources) for one that was isolated and lonely.

他们用田园诗般的生活（他们仍然拥有充足的资源）换取了与世隔绝和孤独的生活。

Of course, they already knew what they loved where they came from, so the decision was easy.

当然，他们已经知道自己来自哪里，喜欢什么，所以做出决定很容易。

He also went back to his old workplace and was given a new position with some of the pay, perks, and responsibilities he was yearning for.

他还回到了原来的工作场所，并获得了一个新职位，并获得了他所渴望的一些工资、福利和责任。

While an expensive mistake, it was an excellent lesson in what they really wanted out of work, home, and life.

虽然这是一个代价高昂的错误，但这是一个很好的教训，让他们明白了他们真正想要从工作、家庭和生活中得到什么。

Decisions around moving, housing, and everything that goes with it are highly emotional.

关于搬家、住房以及与之相关的一切的决定都是高度情绪化的。

The emotional pulls are very important considerations about what’s right for our lives.

情感牵引是我们生活中最重要的考虑因素。

In hindsight, this family realized they should’ve looked more closely at their emotional considerations before going for the logical ones - money, career, etc.

事后看来，这个家庭意识到他们应该在考虑逻辑因素（金钱、事业等）之前更仔细地考虑自己的情感因素。

They brought me in on their process before finalizing the decision on the move back to ensure they evaluated all of the considerations and weren’t making a rash move.

在最终决定搬回之前，他们让我参与了他们的流程，以确保他们评估了所有考虑因素，并且不会做出鲁莽的举动。

Through our discussions we were able to take their emotional considerations and merry them with a logical decision-making framework to ensure everyone felt confident and aligned in the end.

通过我们的讨论，我们能够考虑他们的情感考虑，并通过逻辑决策框架让他们高兴，以确保每个人最终都感到自信和一致。

Having another set of eyes and ears on your moving factors, goals, and needs can bring huge benefit often saving you emotional distress, time, and of course, incredible expense.

拥有另一双眼睛和耳朵来关注您的动态因素、目标和需求可以带来巨大的好处，通常可以节省您的情绪困扰、时间，当然还有令人难以置信的费用。

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感谢您阅读《诚实的经纪人》。

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免费订阅，了解与我们称之为家的地方相关的决策的细微差别、情感和逻辑。