The Day Domestic Violence Came To Church | HuffPost

On a Saturday night in 2014, 18-year-old Danielle Shields sent a friend a series of panicked texts.

2014 年的一个周六晚上，18 岁的丹妮尔·希尔兹 (Danielle Shields) 给朋友发了一系列惊慌失措的短信。

Her boyfriend, Devin Patrick Kelley, was abusing her, she wrote.

她写道，她的男朋友德文·帕特里克·凯利正在虐待她。

Her arms were red.

她的手臂是红色的。

He told her to pack a bag.

他告诉她收拾行李。

When the texts abruptly stopped, her friend called the cops.

当短信突然停止时，她的朋友报了警。

They went to Shields’ house, but closed the report a half hour later.

他们去了希尔兹家，但半小时后关闭了报告。

The incident was simply a “misunderstanding and teenage drama,” they wrote.

他们写道，这一事件只是一场“误会和青少年戏剧”。

Two months later, the couple married.

两个月后，这对夫妇结婚了。

Wedding bells and cake.

婚礼的钟声和蛋糕。

New beginnings.

新的开始。

Three years passed.

三年过去了。

Then, on a sleepy Sunday morning, here’s how it ends.

然后，在一个昏昏欲睡的周日早晨，事情就这样结束了。

On Nov.

十一月一日

5, Kelley pulled up at First Baptist Church in Sutherland Springs, ready to execute a gruesome plan.

5 日，凯利在萨瑟兰泉第一浸信会教堂停下来，准备执行一项可怕的计划。

It was an unexpected location for a mass shooting ― a modest little worship hall in a tiny town in rural South Texas ― but it wasn’t chosen at random.

这是一个意想不到的大规模枪击地点——德克萨斯州南部乡村一个小镇上的一个简陋的小礼拜堂——但它并不是随机选择的。

The church represented something to Danielle and her family, something good and pure.

教堂对丹妮尔和她的家人来说代表着某种美好而纯洁的东西。

His wife used to worship there as a child.

他的妻子小时候曾在那里做礼拜。

In the church directory, there’s an undated photo of her alongside her mother, Michelle, flashing a broad smile.

在教堂的名录里，有一张她和她母亲米歇尔在一起的未注明日期的照片，脸上闪着灿烂的微笑。

Both her mother and grandmother attended services at the church.

她的母亲和祖母都参加了教堂的礼拜活动。

That morning, Kelley ambushed First Baptist wearing all black, armed with a Ruger AR-556 rifle.

那天早上，凯利伏击了身着黑衣、手持鲁格 AR-556 步枪的第一浸信会教徒。

He sprayed the small sanctuary with bullets for seven eternal minutes, slaying congregants in the very pews they prayed in.

他用子弹喷射了这座小圣所长达七分钟，杀死了正在祈祷的会众。

He methodically shot victims in the head, even crying children.

他有条不紊地向受害者的头部开枪，甚至包括哭泣的孩子。

The whole ghastly event was unintentionally caught on camera, as the church regularly recorded its weekly sermons to post on YouTube.

整个可怕的事件无意中被摄像机拍了下来，因为教堂定期录制每周的布道并发布在 YouTube 上。

By the time the gunfire ceased, 26 people were dead, including the unborn child of a pregnant parishioner.

当枪声停止时，已有 26 人死亡，其中包括一名怀孕教区居民未出生的孩子。

Twenty others were wounded, traumatized.

另有二十人受伤，精神受到创伤。

The community was split wide open.

社区被彻底分裂。

Among the victims: A 16-year-old girl whose faith carried her through the loss of her father.

受害者包括一名 16 岁女孩，她的信仰支撑着她度过了失去父亲的时期。

Nine members of the same family .

同一家庭的九名成员。

A middle-aged pair of high school sweethearts .

一对中年情侣高中时期的情侣。

The pastor’s teenage daughter .

牧师十几岁的女儿。

And Kelley’s grandmother-in-law , who was a church volunteer.

还有凯利的祖母，她是一名教堂志愿者。

Kelley shot himself afterward.

凯利随后开枪自杀。

Twenty-six lives were gone in the deadliest mass shooting in modern Texas history.

德克萨斯州现代历史上最致命的大规模枪击事件造成二十六人丧生。

There was no making sense of it.

没有任何意义。

But what would make a person do such a thing?

但什么会让一个人做出这样的事呢？

Every hour of every day, in living rooms and kitchens across America, shouting matches turn into punches turn into women slumped on floors.

每时每刻，在美国各地的客厅和厨房里，喊叫比赛变成了拳打脚踢，变成了倒在地板上的妇女。

Some never get up.

有些人永远不会起床。

It’s a story as old as time.

这是一个古老的故事。

We call it domestic violence, but the name may contribute to the problem.

我们称之为家庭暴力，但这个名称可能会加剧这个问题。

Merriam-Webster defines domestic as “of or relating to the household or the family.” Domestic chores, domestic happiness, it says.

《韦氏词典》将家庭定义为“属于家庭或家庭的或与之相关的”。它说，家务劳动，家庭幸福。

Private, not public.

私人的，不是公开的。

Everyone knows that domestic means shhhh.

大家都知道国内意味着嘘。

It means it’s nobody’s business until it is.

这意味着这与任何人无关。

Kelley was a documented domestic abuser, and a dangerous one.

凯利是一名有记录的家庭虐待者，而且是一个危险的人。

That much is clear.

这已经很清楚了。

After high school, he enlisted in the Air Force and married 19-year-old Tessa Brennaman, who said she lived in constant fear of him .

高中毕业后，他加入了空军，并与 19 岁的泰莎·布伦纳曼 (Tessa Brennaman) 结婚，后者说她一直生活在对他的恐惧之中。

He hit and kicked her, she said, and pressed loaded firearms to her head.

她说，他对她拳打脚踢，并将上膛的枪抵在她的头上。

“There would be times where I would be on the floor curled up and having to protect my organs because he would be violently kicking me on my side,” she said in an interview with CBS’s “Inside Edition.”

“有时我会蜷缩在地板上，不得不保护我的器官，因为他会猛烈地踢我的一侧，”她在接受哥伦比亚广播公司“内部版”采访时说道。

He also strangled her, a terrifying tactic that is common in abusive relationships and can lead to brain damage and death within minutes.

他还勒死了她，这是一种可怕的策略，在虐待关系中很常见，可能会在几分钟内导致脑损伤和死亡。

Research has found that men who strangle their partners are much more likely to eventually kill them than other abusers.

研究发现，勒死伴侣的男性最终杀死伴侣的可能性比其他施虐者高得多。

A year into their marriage, Kelley was court-martialed for strangling and striking Brennaman, as well as cracking open his infant stepson’s skull.

他们结婚一年后，凯利因勒死和殴打布伦纳曼以及敲开他还是婴儿的继子的头骨而被送上军事法庭。

The couple got a divorce, and Kelley was convicted by a general court martial on two charges of domestic assault.

这对夫妇离婚了，凯利因两项家庭暴力罪被军事法庭定罪。

In 2014, he was released from the Air Force with a bad conduct discharge.

2014年，他因行为不良而被空军开除。

With a domestic violence conviction, he should have been barred from purchasing firearms under federal law.

由于家庭暴力罪名成立，根据联邦法律，他应该被禁止购买枪支。

However, the Air Force admitted that it failed to record his conviction in a database that is used to do background checks.

然而，空军承认，它未能将他的定罪记录在用于背景调查的数据库中。

That oversight allowed him to buy the rifle he used to commit the massacre.

这一疏忽让他购买了用于实施屠杀的步枪。

He married his second wife, Danielle Shields, in 2014.

2014年，他与第二任妻子丹妮尔·希尔兹结婚。

Two months before the wedding, police responded to a domestic incident at their house.

婚礼前两个月，警方对发生在他们家的家庭事件做出了反应。

The call “resulted in no offense report being generated,” the Comal County Sheriff’s Office said in a statement.

科马尔县治安官办公室在一份声明中表示，这次通话“没有生成任何犯罪报告”。

Danielle has not spoken to the press, and it is unknown how much abuse she suffered during her marriage.

丹妮尔没有接受媒体采访，也不知道她在婚姻期间遭受了多少虐待。

Authorities have said only that Kelley was involved in a domestic dispute with her family at the time of the shooting and that he sent his mother-in-law, Michelle, threatening texts.

当局只表示，凯利在枪击事件发生时正与家人发生家庭纠纷，并且他向岳母米歇尔发送了威胁短信。

But a friend of Michelle Shields told The New York Times that Kelley was abusing Danielle “physically, verbally and mentally” and that he had threatened her family.

但米歇尔·希尔兹的一位朋友告诉《纽约时报》，凯利“在身体上、言语上和精神上”虐待丹妮尔，并威胁她的家人。

“He was telling her ‘that he was going to get them,’” the family friend said.

“他告诉她‘他要去拿它们’，”这位家庭朋友说。

In the hours after the shooting, dozens of family members gathered in a community center to learn if their loved ones survived or were slain.

枪击事件发生后的几个小时内，数十名家庭成员聚集在社区中心，了解他们的亲人是否幸存或被杀。

Tambria Read, an art teacher at Floresville High School, was standing outside waiting when Michelle emerged.

米歇尔出现时，弗洛雷斯维尔高中的艺术老师坦布里亚·里德（Tambria Read）站在外面等待。

The two women made eye contact and embraced.

两个女人目光接触，拥抱在一起。

They’d known each other peripherally for years ― Michelle was Read’s favorite bank teller, and Read had taught one of Michelle’s children at school.

他们已经认识很多年了——米歇尔是里德最喜欢的银行出纳员，里德曾在学校教过米歇尔的一个孩子。

“She told me, ’I know who did it!” Read recalled, sitting on a folding chair outside the Sutherland Springs Historical Museum , her hair pulled back in a thin braid.

“她告诉我，‘我知道是谁干的！’”里德回忆道，当时她坐在萨瑟兰泉历史博物馆外的折叠椅上，头发向后梳成细辫子。

It was Kelley.

是凯利。

Michelle told Read that her son-in-law was angry because he felt like her family was too involved in his marriage.

米歇尔告诉里德，她的女婿很生气，因为他觉得她的家人过多地介入了他的婚姻。

He wanted them to butt out, to leave them alone.

他希望他们滚出去，别打扰他们。

Most domestic abusers do not kill, but the ones who do often follow a similar pattern.

大多数家庭虐待者并不杀人，但那些杀人的人也常常遵循类似的模式。

They strangle, they stalk and, crucially, they have easy access to guns and are obsessed with control.

他们勒死、跟踪，最重要的是，他们很容易获得枪支，并且痴迷于控制。

When they feel like they’re losing the ability to control their partners, violence may intensify .

当他们感觉自己失去了控制伴侣的能力时，暴力可能会加剧。

Jacquelyn Campbell, professor at the Johns Hopkins School of Nursing, has spent her career trying to understand which abusers are most likely to escalate to killers.

约翰·霍普金斯大学护理学院教授杰奎琳·坎贝尔 (Jacquelyn Campbell) 的职业生涯一直致力于了解哪些施虐者最有可能升级为杀手。

Her research has spawned tools now in use by law enforcement to screen victims using a questionnaire based on known risk factors.

她的研究催生了执法部门现在使用的工具，通过基于已知风险因素的调查问卷来筛选受害者。

She believes there are important warning signs that can occur before a situation turns lethal.

她认为，在情况变得致命之前，可能会出现一些重要的警告信号。

Kelley’s list of red flags was long.

凯利的危险信号清单很长。

As well as convictions for domestic violence, he was investigated as a suspect in a rape in 2013, was cited for animal cruelty and had escaped from a mental facility while he was in the Air Force.

除了因家庭暴力被定罪外，他还在 2013 年作为强奸案嫌疑人接受调查，因虐待动物而被传唤，并在空军服役期间从精神病院越狱。

Kelley posed an “extreme” danger based on his known history, Campbell told HuffPost.

坎贝尔告诉《赫芬顿邮报》，根据凯利已知的历史，凯利构成了“极端”危险。

“We know from my research on domestic violence homicide that there are indicators that can help us recognize abusers who are especially dangerous,” she said.

“从我对家庭暴力杀人的研究中我们知道，有一些指标可以帮助我们识别特别危险的施虐者，”她说。

“He was one of them.”

“他就是其中之一。”

Jennifer Fernandez, the director of the only domestic violence shelter in the area, was at an air show in San Antonio when she heard about the massacre.

该地区唯一一家家庭暴力庇护所的主任詹妮弗·费尔南德斯 (Jennifer Fernandez) 听到大屠杀的消息时，正在圣安东尼奥观看一场飞行表演。

Immediately she wondered if he was one of the abusers in the area that had sent her clients into hiding.

她立即​​想知道他是否是该地区导致她的客户躲藏起来的施虐者之一。

It seemed to her like most mass shootings these days had some connection to domestic violence.

在她看来，如今大多数大规模枪击事件都与家庭暴力有关。

Just a few months earlier, she’d followed news of a mass shooting four hours north, in Plano.

就在几个月前，她注意到了在普莱诺以北四小时车程处发生大规模枪击事件的消息。

The perpetrator was an estranged husband who targeted his wife and her seven friends as they watched a football game.

行凶者是一位分居的丈夫，他在妻子和她的七个朋友观看足球比赛时袭击了他们。

While mass shootings are rare and account for only a fraction of all gun violence, when they do occur, it’s common for them to involve domestic violence.

虽然大规模枪击事件很少见，而且只占所有枪支暴力事件的一小部分，但一旦发生，通常涉及家庭暴力。

From 2015 to early November 2017, there were 46 mass shootings in the U.S., defined as an incident in which four or more people are killed.

从2015年到2017年11月上旬，美国发生了46起大规模枪击事件，被定义为造成四人或四人以上死亡的事件。

According to data collected by Everytown for Gun Safety, in 27 cases, or about 59 percent , the perpetrator killed an intimate partner or family member during the massacre or had a history of domestic violence.

根据Everytown for Gun Safety收集的数据，在27起案件中，即约59%，肇事者在屠杀期间杀害了亲密伴侣或家庭成员，或者有家庭暴力史。

“The danger and devastation of domestic violence is not limited to the family,” Fernandez told HuffPost from her office, occasionally dabbing at her eyes with a tissue.

“家庭暴力的危险和破坏不仅限于家庭，”费尔南德斯在办公室告诉《赫芬顿邮报》，时不时用纸巾擦眼睛。

The shooting was still fresh, and she found it hard to talk about without crying.

拍摄的那件事还记忆犹新，她发现谈论起来很难不哭。

One in three Texans experiences domestic violence, she went on.

她接着说，三分之一的德克萨斯人经历过家庭暴力。

It made her want to scream.

这让她想尖叫。

“It is not an issue between two people, it’s not a women’s issue, it’s not an advocate issue,” she said.

“这不是两个人之间的问题，不是女性的问题，也不是倡导者的问题，”她说。

“This is everyone’s issue.”

“这是每个人的问题。”

Texas has one of the highest rates of fatal domestic violence in the country .

德克萨斯州是全国家庭暴力致死率最高的州之一。

In 2016, 146 women were killed by intimate partners, and it had eight incidents of familicide, when children or other close family members are killed.

2016年，有146名女性被亲密伴侣杀害，其中有8起家庭杀戮事件，其中儿童或其他亲密家庭成员被杀害。

Resources for domestic violence victims are scarce in rural Texas.

德克萨斯州农村地区家庭暴力受害者的资源匮乏。

Guadalupe Valley Family Violence Shelter, where Fernandez works, serves four sprawling counties that span over 3,000 square miles.

费尔南德斯工作的瓜达卢佩谷家庭暴力庇护所为占地 3,000 多平方英里的四个庞大县提供服务。

Her single center isn’t nearly big enough to meet the needs of the community, although it does the best it can.

她的单一中心虽然已经尽力了，但还不够大，无法满足社区的需求。

Victims in rural areas such as hers face many obstacles when seeking help.

像她这样的农村地区的受害者在寻求帮助时面临许多障碍。

They must travel to access resources, which may not even be in their county.

他们必须前往获取资源，而这些资源甚至可能不在他们的县内。

If they don’t have a car, forget it.

如果他们没有车，那就算了。

And then there’s the sticky problem of confidentiality.

还有一个棘手的保密问题。

“A lot of women won’t report it because as soon as you go and ask for help, everybody knows.

“很多女性不会报告，因为一旦你去寻求帮助，每个人都知道。

It’s embarrassing,” said Yvonne, a local resident who didn’t want to use her last name.

这很尴尬，”当地居民伊冯娜（Yvonne）说，她不愿透露自己的姓氏。

“You can’t speak without everyone knowing.

“你不能在所有人都知道的情况下说话。

That’s how a small town is.”

小镇就是这样。”

Across a grassy field from the church, a line of 26 crosses served as a meeting spot for mourners and the media, who arrived in droves immediately after the massacre.

在教堂对面的一片草地上，一排 26 个十字架成为哀悼者和媒体的聚会地点，他们在大屠杀后立即蜂拥而至。

For days, a never-ending stream of townspeople staggered around red-eyed, leaving offerings of flowers and teddy bears and coins.

连续几天，镇上的人们源源不断地红着眼睛摇摇晃晃地走来走去，留下鲜花、泰迪熊和硬币。

They formed impromptu prayer circles, arms clutching each other.

他们即兴围成祈祷圈，双臂紧握。

They crouched down to examine the photos, silently mouthing each victim’s name.

他们蹲下来检查照片，默默地念出每个受害者的名字。

Some stood completely still for minutes at a time, overcome with emotion.

有些人一动不动地站了几分钟，情绪激动。

Others turned to each other with bewildered expressions, whispering questions without simple answers.

其他人面面相觑，表情困惑，低声询问，没有简单的答案。

Last Sunday, one week after the shooting, the church reopened its doors to the public.

上周日，枪击事件发生一周后，教堂重新向公众开放。

There was no trace of the violence that occurred within .

里面没有发生过暴力的痕迹。

The entire space was painted white.

整个空间被漆成了白色。

Instead of pews, there were 26 handmade chairs, carefully positioned where congregants were sitting when the tragedy struck.

没有长凳，而是 26 张手工制作的椅子，精心放置在悲剧发生时会众坐的地方。

It was a powerful act of reclaiming the space as sacred, returning it to the people who had sung and believed and worshipped there.

这是一项强有力的行动，将这个空间重新视为神圣的，将其归还给在那里歌唱、信仰和崇拜的人们。

Kelley, the gunman, would not take it from them.

枪手凯利不会从他们手中夺走它。

By the next day, most of the media had packed up and left town.

第二天，大部分媒体已经收拾行李离开小镇。

The crosses, once a bustling spot, were deserted.

十字架曾经是一个繁华的地方，现在却荒芜了。

There were no cameras on the corner, no reporters waving tape recorders.

街角没有摄像机，也没有挥舞着录音机的记者。

“We’re a bunch of tough suckers,” said Alfred Andrews, 77, a longtime resident of Sutherland Springs, as he finished his lunch at Witte’s Barbeque.

“我们是一群坚强的傻瓜，”77 岁的阿尔弗雷德·安德鲁斯 (Alfred Andrews) 在 Witte’s Barbeque 吃完午餐时说道，他是萨瑟兰泉 (Sutherland Springs) 的长期居民。

“We take the licks and keep on going.”

“我们接受并继续前进。”

A Wilson County sheriff’s deputy, who asked to remain anonymous because he didn’t have permission to speak to the media, hadn’t allowed himself to cry yet.

威尔逊县的一名副警长因无权接受媒体采访而要求匿名，但他还没有让自己哭出来。

He said he responded to the call from the church right after the shooting and witnessed the unimaginable bloodshed.

他说，枪击事件发生后，他立即响应教堂的电话，亲眼目睹了难以想象的流血事件。

“When the job is done, that’s when we’ll get to grieve,” he said.

“当工作完成时，我们就会感到悲伤，”他说。

“It’s not done yet.”

“还没做完呢。”

In the months to come, he knew he would return to normal, small-town police duties: responding to car accidents, noise violations and, of course, domestic incidents.

在接下来的几个月里，他知道自己将恢复正常的小镇警察职责：应对车祸、噪音违规，当然还有家庭事件。

The bread-and-butter of police work.

警察工作的生计。

But he’d never forget what he saw.

但他永远不会忘记他所看到的。

As this reporter drove out of town, traffic was stalled on the main road.

记者驾车出城时，主干道上交通陷入瘫痪。

Cars were bumper to bumper.

汽车接连不断。

A funeral procession was passing.

送葬队伍正经过。